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age
41-50,
*oulful
writes:My ex is engaged and has been contacting me for two months now explaining how much he loves me and misses me. He originally contacted me to check on me because he thought I was still living in another state but I had been living back in the state that he resides in for at least two months undetected. Since he's realized we are living in the same city he hasn't stopped contacting me. I have refused to see him and have told him to think about his actions. He refuses to acknowledge his current status and doesn't care to talk about it. He continues to be very persistent...I do love him but due to his current status, I am not willing to see him at all. What should I do?
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reader, Soulful +, writes (14 April 2009):
Soulful is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice I will keep you all updated!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009): You need to stop and think about the reason he is your ex. If you can truly say that you still love him after that, then talk to him. He may not really want to marry this person he is engaged to. If he was already married, I could see your reason for wanting to stay away.
You owe it to yourself to talk to him and see if there is still something there. If not, then you have closure and can go on with your life. If there is something there and you did nothing, it will always be in the back of your mind - what if.....
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reader, Dazed~Confused  +, writes (14 April 2009):
 Continue doing exactly what you are doing? Obviously he's second guessing whether he wants to get married or not. It's not fair to you to be a part of his drama.
The fact that he won't even admit that he's engaged is telling.
I think you have handled things well.
If and when he sorts things out, then maybe you guys can talk. Just make sure he's being honest with you.
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