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writes:Hello,I have a lady friend that I have been cool with for awhile now. We had sex about about a month ago. At the same time I had a female that I was talking to nothing serious at all. Before this happened my lady friend was trying to work things out with her ex. She told me that she really likes me and enjoyed our lil episode. But she feels I will not leave the other girl alone despite the fact that me and the other woman are not serious. She was already considering on having her boyfriend move down here. In which she decided to do. Prior to her boyfriend coming down here to start looking for a place she was hitting me up and wanted me to come and see her. I tried to have sex with her again but she wouldn't due to the fact she felt guilty. That was no problem. Then her man came down to visit and the same day he left she called me. Since that day she wanted to see me pretty much everyday. She asked me for back massage and start taking off certain clothing. She then gave me massage. Also she has been real flirtatious. Every time her man calls when I'm there she either ignores his phone calls or answers but tries to rush him off the phone. Another thing I noticed if she hits me up(call/text) and I don't answer she gets upset. She also gets upset if I say I'm going to be at her house at a certain time and I show up a little late. She wants me to meet her son when he comes down. Yeah, I have some feelings for her but her situation makes it a lil too complicating. So I was thinking that we should have a friends with benefits type relationship. Anyway what do you all suggest I should do with this situation? I know once her man gets here it will be somewhat different but that's not a big deal. I just need some suggestions. Do you all think I will be able get her to let me in(sexually) every once in awhile without her feeling guilty. Or do you suggest leaving her alone period? As I said before she has feelings for me and wants to still have sex with but she's trying to get over the guilt trip.Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah it's crazy I have other female friends But I tried to pull away from her and it seems like I can't. When I ignore her she ends up calling me or texting me. I figured I should go the friends with benefits route. Since I'm not getting my feelings involved. I say the biggest turnoff with her is the fact that she gets upset over minor things. We can be joking together and she ends up taking things the wrong way. It's like we argue as if we are in a relationship. Sheesh!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 February 2010):
I would suggest that you leave her alone. I say this because you'll not be able to get rid of your guilt, and this is a woman who seems confused enough about everything she's feeling. She still likes her boyfriend, and it'll end with you getting burnt because all she's doing is using you as an emotional rock. In the end you'll look bad and have a crap reputation. Move on.
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