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writes:Hi. Well, here it is. I've been together for with my bf for almost a year, the sex is good and i'm now pretty comfortable with everything we do together and we love each other dearly. Now i wanna know, is it normal to have tears dripping out when having sex? I recently have tears coming out when we have sex. There's absolutely nothing wrong with them i believe, because i enjoy him so much. Its just that he noticed it once and asked me, then i couldn't really explain it to him. But i know that i truly enjoy it... What makes these tears come out guys? Thanks for the replies! Reply to this Question
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (13 September 2008):
 All the previous dear advisors, Tisha-1," "thatgothgirl20," "Annalisa" and "Smiles" have offered such excellent information, and I can only offered a man's perspective because I have experienced a couple of women tearing during good, tender and excellent sex.
Each time, especially the first time that I realized that my girl seemed to be crying because of some tears in her eyes, I was shocked and felt bad for a moment. I remember asking, "Are you crying? Do you want me to stop?" But each claimed that they were very happy and encouraged me to keep going. Also, each relationship was long-lasting and those tears soon after vanished. It is possible that some were virgins, which may have somehow caused the tears. So, while I cannot possibly claim any full understanding of female mentality, I feel that I have seen this emotion and I agree that it was based on happiness (in those cases).
If your emotion is NOT from happiness - or based on fear, foreboding, apprehension or some other unpleasantness, then there should be some concern. I think that many young women today fear that they are wasting their sexuality with young guys who will merely dump them after they "get what they want" - and in many cases, that is likely the case. My recommendation would be to allow some considerable amount of time with a boyfriend, doing a lot of unsexual things together, before putting out.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (12 September 2008):
 Hi, this has happened to me too, and it's not because I'm sad in any way, it's just the overwhelming feeling of love and connectedness that seems to prompt it. If you explain that they are tears of happiness, he'll get used to them eventually. So don't worry about it.
That is unless you are sad or unhappy about something, in which case you need to examine things more closely.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2008): Dear Poster
I think you might feel very vulnerable at that time; very close to him, very happy, released all your tensions and just being very intimate and very emotional;
I think it is probably nothing to worry about;( a tear of happiness at a very vulnerable and intimate moment)!
Unless you have deep rooted issues and memories that you have not mentioned to us; I think it is probably nothing to worry about;( a tear of happiness at a very vulnerable and intimate moment)!
Enjoy, next time it happens ask him to hold you tight and tell him how much you love him and how close you feel to him at that moment.
Best wishes and lots of SMILES.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (12 September 2008):
 Maybe it's tears of happiness. Idk. You know some people get nose-bleeds during sex, but that is usually a sign of high-blood pressure or something.
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