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writes:I divorced my husband of 22 years. I wanted to leaves for years. He is selfish and unkind and very mean with money. We always argue over money cuz he just want to save. I met this new man 18 years older than me right after my divorce. His experience about life and love makes me feel good being round him. However he is also very mean with money. Again same like my ex-husband just like to save money. I want to dine out he wouldnt come with me. It is his principle. I love him cuz he makes me feel wanted and loved. And he is fantastic in bed. I love to enjoy finer thing in life and I am afraid we will go separate way in the end. I dont know to stay or leave. Please advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): If it is money your concerned about, then make your own.
I admire a man who is careful with money. It seems your new man is doing everything right in all other areas, but your not getting a fancy dinner and feel that it somehow is not enough!
In my experiance you sound a little too high maintenance and may well end up having to pay for your own dinners in the end if you keep focusing on wanting something that you cannot afford to provide for yourself.
This attitude tends to be how many women, who are not just interested in his bank balance or financial benefits, get tarnished with the same brush as the greedy girls who place way too much value on 'fancy resturants, gifts and always wanting to be spoilt'
If this guy is awesome in other ways, whats your problem?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): Men don't like squandering money, they know how important it is, and if they lost their job and had a rough time replacing the job, then they would need a nest egg to work from.
What exactly would you like to do that needs money?
Do you have a job? And don't you make enough that you can spend on the things you want, even treat him? I must be old fashioned, but I usually was tight with money to, manyly because I didn't have that much. But I always looked for the bargains. I'd go on vacation, but it had to be planned that we knew exactly what we were going to do, and make sure everything was budgeted for the trip to make sure we had no surprises.
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