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writes:Okay So im like 15 i know a bit young but i really need advice. see ive been going out with this boy since the beginning of may, but ive liked his friend all the way through the time weve been dating, and well at first i really liked my boyfriend, i mean he pays attention to me, tells me he loves me over msn, phones me, texts me. but hes never told me he loves me to my face. and that kind of worries me. aswell as the fact him and his ex have a really good relationship. they went out for like 4 months and then went out again for like 8 months and there really close, i mean we go different schools and i have best friends in his class. and he always hugs her and flirts with her, and shes got like F size boobs so he goes on about. and it kinda makes me feel like he doesnt realize im kind of jealous. and i dont think i like him anymore im just so confused as to what to do, we broke up on sunday then he carved my name into his arm, but i didnt want him to hurt himself anymore so i went back out with him. and i think im hurting myself instead by doing this. please someone give me some advice i really need help thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2009): you are too young baby. dont go for him, he will be ok with others but you cant. leave him alone. you got long way to go. take it easy.
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reader, uncle Frank  +, writes (18 July 2009):
 At 15 you should forget b/f all together and concentrate in school work and growing up.
Follow the advice of the other guys: leave him to his problems. If you know his parents talk to them, but leave him all the same.
You'v got some 50 years ahead of you: pretty long time to find a goooood b/f.
uncle Frank
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): you made the mistake by going back out with him now he thinks he has you in the palm of his hands. he thinks you won't leave him. what you should do is talk to his parents about this predicament and hope it goes well
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (11 July 2009):
 Classic sign of a future abuser. Not all abusers use violence.
He is controlling you be threathening NOT to harm you, but himself, but the result is actually worse. You can fight off an abusive attacker. the cops can arrest an wife beater but what are you going to do against someone who cuts themselves? If you leave him, he can STILL do it!
And what is the future going to hold, you ALWAYS have to be with a guy who flirts with other women, who you don't love because he might hurt himself? Neat trap.
You are indeed hurting yourself with this. You are NOT responsible for his behavior. Break it off, make it absolutely 100% clear that you will NEVER EVER get back to him no matter what and then make sure you do exactly that.
No answering his calls, no talking at school. Nothing. if he hurts himself, his problem. Because all you showed this time that hurting himself works to control you.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (11 July 2009):
What he did by cutting himself was emotional blackmail.
He did it knowing he would make you feel bad and FORCE you to do something you didn't want to do (go back out with him.) He did it to manipulate and control you. That is never a good thing.
If you don't want to be with him (and he doesn't sound like a great boyfriend to me) then tell him it's over.
If he cuts himself again then ring his mum and tell her what he's done. He won't think he's so cool and powerful when mummy comes dashing in and wants to wrap him up in bandages. You won't have to worry as he'll be getting help from his parents and you don't have to be with an insensitive bully of a boyfriend.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): hiyaaa tell ur boyfriend how u feel cuz if u don't he won't no. don't go out wiv him if u don't wanna cuz it will NEVER work. trust me. bestofluck x
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