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writes: Hello everyone. It's been a while since my last question, but I've have another. Recently my ex and I got back together again and things have been great, but the way we got back together is the problem. She was dating my ex best friend and I had given up hope of ever getting back with her. I had had enough torment. I was still very much in love with her, but I didn't want to ruin my ex friend's hope of a relationship. So I started to look for a date without telling her and I found one with the help of a friend. We started texting and I felt happy. We had a date the coming weekend, but something told me to tell my ex, so I did. As I expected she got pissed. I would have told her I still loved her, but I had promised never to tell her, so all I could say was I still cared about her, and the day before, I told my ex I was still in love with her. After arguing over the text, she called and we started fighting over the phone. I tried calming her down, but she ended up crying and told me she still loved me very much. My emotions just flared and I felt really horrible. I was crying, telling her she should have said something sooner. Then later, she broke up with my ex best friend and I cancelled my date. Recently, some guy slapped her butt and I didn't stand up for her because I was scared. Now she is holding that moment against me and I don't know what to do. She calls me a pussy for not standing up for her and I hate it. What can I do to show her I am the man she wants?
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (5 February 2011):
 I wouldn't even bother. You can care but if the girl didn't stand up for herself then why should you bother. It was between her and some guy, you could back you up but you would be a sucker to fight her battles for her.
An ex of mine had that happen to her and she didn't do anything about it and there was no way I was going to argue in a bar about it. The best thing you can do is walk away from a girl who expects that of you.
It's different if he was harrasing her but chances are she didn't really mind it other wise she would have given that a guy a piece of her mind.
She wants a man who will get the crap kicked out of him for jumping in on her issues and next thing you know the guy has friends and it's not good for you.
Yes a man should stand up for his girl but there has to be limits on this.
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