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writes:Hey everyoneI just broke up with my boyfriend, he was a great guy and he said he loved me so much, he told he would take a bullet for me. But I didn't love him, I told him and he said that's just one of the challenges of a relationship. We were going out for three months still didn't get butterflies. My other ex was different, I fell in love with him right away. But in this one I was not happy, maybe it was because of the way he acted, he's sometimes childish, and he asked me if I didn't meet him, will I go out with his best friend and he told he's brother what we did( it wasn't sex), he always cared about how I look physical, Now he's sad and putting stuff on Facebook that he let a good girl slipaway. Please help, did I do the right thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2012): I am in the same boat I am 31 and I have this 61 year old that is really great he paid my car off and bought me a flat screen tv, a laptop, and two brand new tires. He even offered to put us in a house and pay part of the rent. I seriously am not attracted to him and he is attracted to me 100% and also wants to have sex with me. I am always putting him off telling him I am on my menustration or that I am too tired. He is so not attractive.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (7 July 2012):
You did the right thing. You can’t stay in a relationship where the only thing stopping you from ending it is worrying about how the other person’s going to feel. 3 months is quite a short time, if by then you already had a clear sense that you didn’t want to be in a relationship with this person, that’s a very good indication that it just isn’t to be. You did the right thing, and the kindest thing. Sadly the right thing isn’t always the easiest thing, but you shouldn’t feel guilty for being honest. It is a shame that he is publicising all his emotions on Facebook, this seems to be an increasingly common thing that people do but it really is unhelpful for everyone. Don’t deliberately click on his profile to read it, and look at the settings to see if there’s a way that you can stop news stories from his profile appearing on your home page news feed. This could well be an attempt to make you feel bad and consider taking him back and if so, it’s rather foolish. Alternatively if it’s just his way of getting support from others, you really do not need to read it, so do all you can to avoid reading it.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 July 2012):
 you did the right thing.
if you don't love someone you know it...
he's behaving like a lovesick teenager (oh wait he is)...
yeah this feels bad right now sweetie but in the span of life it is a very short and not too painful lesson.
ALWAYS REMAIN TRUE TO YOUR FEELINGS.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2012): We can't live our lives miserable just to make other people happy. If you wasn't happy with him, then you've done the right thing, he'll get over it.
I don't think he or anyone else would stick around if they wasn't happy, do you? (Realistically?).
Its never nice hurting peoples feelings but his feelings are his responsibility to deal with the same as yours are your responsibility.
The longer the situation went on the harder it would have been to tackle.
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