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writes:Hi Everyone I have a bit of a problem and I hope someone can help me with it every Answer I,ll be greatful For :)( It kinda rambles on but I want u 2 know the whole story ). About two years ago my friend Brought me to a Church youth group.The reason she brought me there was so we could both do something every week instead of just meeting at school. Anyway we got there and I made some friends but I felt as though I didn't Belong.Then My friend Introduced me to the leader of the youth group. I,m a very shy person and i could hardly speak to him. But he was a very Nice guy and a very handsome man as well.for the next year I went to the youth Group and I could hardly say a word to him. Then in june me and my friend arrived at the youth group and we were the first there. When we had gotten there the leader was there setting up seats. For the first time I had a conversation with him. For ages I had feelings for him. And then he dropped a BombShell. The next youth group meeting would be his Last. I was so upset. It was the first time i spoke to him and he was leaving. near the end of the meeting he said he was taking us to this night cafe to listen to a band. well normally the youth group finishes at half past nine and I,d be home at half ten ( The drive home )so i texted my mother and told her I,d be a little later.The band kept playing and it was getting later than i thought. You see the next Day I was goin to A concert and i had to be up early enough and well me being 16 and a good bit away from home my mother Naturally was worried and angry . It was after midnight when I got home. My mother told me that I was never allowed to go to the youth group again. I was heart-Broken. Especially when my friend told me that he wanted to see me before he left and he seemed down. The man that I had feelings for was leaving the next week and I couldnt say goodbye. after a while i got over the pain and Moved on with life my mum even let me go back to the youth group but it was never the same so I left. But now i,ve started to have dreams of him . every night i dream of him and I dont know why this is happening. Since I,ve had these dreams I,ve started to like him a man i will never see again. But I want to get in contact with him and tell him Why i didnt get to say goodbye and mabye pluck up the courage to tell him how i fell. I really need help with this one. All answers I get I,m extreamelly Greatful for
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reader, star20  +, writes (10 June 2011):
i know i couldn't help at all but.. we have d same expirience. (sigh) wat's diffirent is that i never got the chance to talked to d guy i lyk and now he left.i don't know where he is.. but as you said you always dream of him.. TRY TO WAIT, KEEP CLOSER TO THE PEOPLE/PERSON WHO'S CLOSE TO HIM .. SO THAT YOU COULD HAVE THIS COMMUNICATION.. try to be pretty in front of him...
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): Definitely!!! Find him! This sounds like the ultimate love story. I'm pretty sure he's crazy for you too. So hopefully he contacts you too!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo squeezeybear at the time I was at the youth group he was 26 and I was 16. I'm 18 now in a few weeks and I'd like to find himThank you so much for replying everyone and thank you for the advice :)
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reader, squeezeybear  +, writes (13 January 2010):
This just sounds like a pretty intense crush to me, don't worry we all get them. However, that might be me being a little overly skeptical. What I want to know is how old is this man you like? You say he was the group leader so automatically in my mind I place him as an older man. If this is the case you really need to move on. I know this might not be what you want to hear, but theres no point obsessing and making your self miserable over a completely unrealistic relationship. If you really think there is a realistic chance of anything happening between you two, and please be truthful with youself, then take positive steps to come back into contact with him. Ask at the youth group why he left, if he was relocated where did he relocate to? But honestly, I feel like this seemingly innocent and fun fantacy you have will upset utimately become upsetting if you continue to obsess over 'what if's. Enjoy this for what it is, a crush :)
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reader, Smellyellie +, writes (13 January 2010):
 try and find him.. you are obviously crushing on this guy big time so go for it.. see if the church has a number for and try to find him again its the only thing that you can do too let him know how you feel...
However remember this guy may have found someone else so try not to get your hopes up tto much as you dont want to be left heart broken im the end..
hope this helps a little bit!! :D x
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