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writes:Well, I started to like someone long distance on skype and he used to get upset if I was not able to speak to him for a while or was too busy and seemed to care. Well recently he had been distant with me, one word answers and really cold if lucky, most of the time nothing. I really did enjoy his company, so I planned to move to where he is, but had not told him I discussed it with my family and a few friend and he tells me he has been dating, and how he wishes I was "there"I am so disappointed so I decided to tell him how I feel and told him I didn't want to interfere and that I would delete him off my account and he could call or text me on my number if he ever needed anything, I have nothing not even a text. I do miss him very much and have strong feelings towards him, was my decision to delete him correct? I'm not sure and having second thoughts, I believe it was at the time. Thanks you very much :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2012): Yep chances are I might still go there, but won't look a full however.
Lucky me, eh? :) Glad it turned out the way it did ^.^
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 November 2012):
 Then...pfeew! Imagine if you had gone ahead with your plans in secret, and sprung on him your surprise... chances are you'd have found him into the arms of some other girls, and that would have made for a quite embarassing moment .Pat yourself on the back for having dodged a bullet, and next time, go slower, don't even THINK of turning your life around for a man ,if you aren't 110% certain about your mutual love and committment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2012): Thanks a lot, I never told him about my plans on moving, I live in a third world region at the moment so my move to America wasn't certain. I thought i'd keep it a surprise till the time came. Well he still hasn't contacted me so he obviously doesn't care and although I would have liked to keep him as a friend I thought it was unfair and as you said I should "keep my dignity" I'm feeling better knowing that you think it was the right thing to do, I do have a feeling he'll try slither back into my life when things go downhill, if they do.I'll leave it as a fantasy that never happened! Thanks a lot :)
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (20 November 2012):
Of course you did the right thing, what else could you have done ? You are planning to move for him,... and he is dating other people ! You want contact and companionship, and he gives you cold one liners. Obviously here wants needs and expectations are not matching and you are not on the same page, so don't think twice, .. and look for someone local next time. LDRs are difficult always, and at your age even more.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (20 November 2012):
 Yes you were right to delete him. Don't text him. No contact is the quickest way to move on and keep your dignity.
He is dating someone so it's time to move on. Miss him, that's natural. But remind yourself that your strong feelings were not based on anything solid. You hadn't met him in real life, and you didn't really know him as well as you thought you did.
Don't have second thoughts. You did absolutely the right thing. Next time, meet someone face to face. Long distance relationships are hard enough, but pretty much impossible if you haven't actually met.
Give it some time and then try to meet someone local to you who can give you what you want.
There's nothing lost here except a fantasy.
Good luck.
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