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writes:My best friend is dating a 21 year old guy (she's 16).She has been treating me and all her friends like crap because we keep asking her to quit being VERY touchy-feely with him around us. It makes us really uncomfortable.We made a vow to not lose our virginity until we were out of high school. She had sex with him after 3 weeks of dating, and we are sophmores.I'm very emotional about it, because I can't believe she would do this.I cry myself to sleep, I can't talk to her, and worst, I don't like how she's treating everyone.What should I do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUPDATE....
She keeps shoving the fact she had sex in my face.
I have never told her what i thought anbout her having sex.
She goes to Volleyball practice adnd asks me "Do you what to have a 3-way with us??" and "You seem very up tight, you nned to go and have sex with your boyfriend."
She laughs about it. Because she told me all about that night(her first time) and i listened, and i never said anything negative.
But she continues to tell all of us that we are wimps becasue we dont want to lose our virginity at 15-16 years old.
I can't stand how she is disrepecting all her friends.
What should i do??
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reader, DJ8433 +, writes (12 August 2007):
 You feel like your relationship with your friend is changing, but you cannot control what she does. Live you're life the way you want, be in control of you. I suggest having people around you that support your goals, but you're not saying she's unsupportive of you being a virgin. You've set the bar very high for yourself, and so did your friend. What she doesn't want to hear is that she's broken a vow to herself. Conscienscious people are usually harder on themselves when they don't meet their own expectations. I'm sure she felt bad about it, but she can't change it now. Maybe she feels like her friends are judging her. Who wants to be around people that are constantly judging them? Let her be happy, and if you're her friend, love her.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (12 August 2007):
 Your best friend is growing up I'm afraid although she should keep her sex life to herself. When someone decides to lost their virginity is up to them I'm afraid. I think you have feelings for her and the fact she has someone else has hurt you the most. You'll get over it with time.
Eve
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