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writes: I have been with this woman for 3 years now and am still not sure about my feelings for her. We are very close, both divorced with two children. We took a family vacation together to Paris, have spent weekends away, and see each other all the time. We are very passionate with each other, get along great and can talk about anything. The problem is that she loves me and tells me all the time. I have trouble telling her I love her. For some reason, I retreat. I get so upset with myself and don't understand why I can't let the words flow. I have broken up with her several times thinking that I really don't love her but when we are apart, I miss her. We've talked about how I show my love for her but not in words. I get to a certain level and then feel like running. I slow down the phone calls etc.. I have had other relationships where I could say I love you and feel those emotions. Obviously none of them worked out. My marriage ended after 13 years due to my wife cheating on me. This woman is a beautiful lady, smart etc.. and willing to stick by me through anything. I just don't understand why I can't say I love you. I don't know whether to just leave her and find someone else.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (19 July 2005):
You say that you do love her, are you sure? Are you scared of telling her you love her and then her letting you down like your wife did?
If you really love your girlfriend, the words should come easy so I think you really have to question yourself why they dont. Only you know the answer.
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