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writes: I have a problem, I think. I can't see myself as special. I only see myself as normal.I know I have a lot of good things about me. I do well at school, I have some artistic talent (in music, writing and drawing/painting), I enjoy good health, and even though I'm not stunning, I'm pretty enough.However, I take all this for granted. Ever since I was a kid I appreciated everything about myself as normal, so I wouldn't brag (I hate people who do). I think my modesty actually turned into something bad, because now I see myself as average. Like I'm not special, even thoug people say I am, especially my BF and this frustrates him a lot, as he thinks I don't value myself enough.I constantly think that other people are better than me. I know I have kinda a low self esteem, but it's not really about that. It's just I'm so used to myslef and everything about me, that i think everyone is the same, or better than me. I think my traits are common for everyone, and even though rationally I know it's not the case, I can't seem to let that sink in.I can't see myself as special, I just feel like a plain regular girl, even though I have some unique stuff about me. Help?
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reader, Ordinaryrisktaker  +, writes (31 March 2008):
There is nothing wrong with being normal every person is special in their own way.Don't ever think that ppl are better than you never a person is good in his/her way some ppl may like you some not it's life. you have to be more selfconfident being yourself is all that matters an original is better than a copy.I hope that in anyway i helped best of luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): You are probably at the age when you dont believe in yourself, but honestly confidence and self belief will come in time. Just be yourself and stop worrying that you arent as good as others, YOU ARE! I used to feel like this when i was young, but i grew out of it in time. You are a beautiful person and that is what counts.
take care
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reader, BigSis  +, writes (31 March 2008):
 Here's a little advice from one special lady to another, and listen carefully.
Each and everyone of us are special, we're all unique in our own way. You should never worry about what others say or think about you. Look deep inside of yourself and keep reminding yourself that you are somebody special - with bonuses too, you're talented in many ways. Think yourself very lucky.
Follow this link and read what WizardOfWaz has put up, I'm sure it will help lift your spirits and raise that low self-esteem problem you have, even though you say it's not really about that.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/genetically-modified-woman-or-organic-female-which-do.html
Just believe in yourself and you will be ok.
Luv BigSis xXx
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