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writes:Ok Ive been in a relationship with my bf for 18 months and I love him so much, and he told me he loves me. Last night I went to give my friend a quick ring and realised I had no credit, so I went to use his (he was downstairs).I saw a message from another women and thought nothing of it thinking it may be a work collegue. But I have seen pictures of a romantic place Sandals and she is in his pictures. He went away in april for 2 weeks and Ive noticed a ring mark on the wedding finger. I confronted him and found out he is married!! he has been with his gf for 6 years. I knew he had a gf when he got with me but i thought that was over. He told me he loves me but there is an age gap, and he wants me to finish uni, and find myself first before we can be truly committed. He seems so genuine, yet what he is doing is utterly wrong. Please help me my head is in turmoil!! What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2008): my advice would be to run (dont walk) away,and never look back.trust me,if he wont commit to you now,then he never will.there will always be some excuse why he cant leave her and just be with you only.dont let the good guy act fool you,becuz even good guys have affairs and they will play you like a fiddle if you allow it.yes,he might actually care about you.but its still highly unlikely that he will ever make that commitment if hes married.the only thing you will walk away with is a broken heart and possibly a broken soul.the sooner you get out the better.if after you finish college and you happen to meet up and hes a single man,then maybe give him a chance.but until then,youd be smart to leave before you get hurt.the pain that these things cause is immense and will stick with you.please dont put yourself through it
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reader, lucy84  +, writes (18 September 2008):
ok I went through this myself...he was seperated but still talked with her and we have an age gap too....im married to him now but even if u two work on this its goin to be harder than you can imagine....you are young and he has already begun living his life, you can still live yours...also let's be honest if he's cheatin on her with you then he will cheat on you too I mean he is now and after her he still will. You will be unhappy with all the extra stress....jus "take a break" talk to him if you must but I really recommend jus droppin him and movin on; you don't need the stress and a man like that is not worth it, TRUST ME
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