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writes:ok. im 17 year old female virgin, i have been questioning my sexuality from a young age, about 11. i dont want to have these thoughts but i dont think anyone ever does really do they? i have been kinda tryin to tell my friend for the past 6 months or so but i think deep down she all ready knew. on boxing day me the friend i mentioned and another went to the pub had a few too many drinks. she asked me if i was bi and i burst in to tears and said i dont know, maybe i think so. and that was about it. the next day she came round and was like last night was eventful and i was like....yup and she asked if i wnted to talk about it and i said no, but she was so lovely and understanding that i told her everything. i thought it was fine but im not so sure anymore.it has been a few days since i have even heard from her. i dont now if she is busy, or if she is tking time to process info, or if she is avoiding me.i regret telling her now.i want to take it all backi want to be normali want something i cant have Reply to this Question
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reader, jessicalynne  +, writes (29 December 2010):
 I myself, from a verrrry young age. From about 7 have been questioning my sexuality. I witnessed something at age 7 on tv that got me interested in women, and boobs, ect. Please don't say your not normal because I don't know what I am either. It's not our fault. Scientist have proven that sexuality deals with genetics and a part in your brain! You may never know, and don't fret. Just enjoy yourself sweetie. ;)
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (29 December 2010):
 She could be busy and she could just be processing the information you gave her. Who knows? Why do you want to take it back? You can't help who you are, we are brain washed from a young age (at least where I am we are) to believe that if you aren't straight then you are wrong and are going to burn in hell. Bullsh*t. You can't help how you feel or who you feel those feelings for. Embrace who you are and if other people can't accept you for that, then maybe they weren't your friends to begin with.
You could just be bi curious, like most of the girls I know are or were and that just led them to discover that they are straight. You never know. You aren't abnormal to feel like this, there are a lot of people who are going through what you are going through right now and are just as terrified of the supposed "consequences".
Your friend sounds like a really good friend and I think she will come around in her own time. She will be okay.
Good luck to you and there is nothing wrong with you. Live life with no regrets. Would you rather sail through life being who you are? Or pretending to be who you think they want you to be because you're afraid of their reaction?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): You haven't done anything wrong. If she is your close friend you Only need to know you can trust her.
Have you contacted her at all in these last few days? Has she ignored you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): I don't know how to help you. I'm also confused about my sexuality. I've been fortunate enough to have a friend who is too, and we frequently talk about it.
All I can say is, that it's not your fault that you are like this. It's nothing to be ashamed of. If your friend just can't accept it, she isn't worth your friendship. If she really cares for you, she would accept you regardless of anything.
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