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writes:I seem to be comparing the guys I date to one guy who is very special to me, but for various reasons I can't be with. He's a great guy and we stay in close email contact and sometimes meet up. To me he is perfect (apart from being over 1000 km away and not quite ready for a relationship lol). We share something special and I can't seem to give another guy a chance right now. I try and see myself with someone else, but then I think what if he wants to be with me? But then it seems crazy to wait around for someone just in case... It's not his fault, he's been completely upfront with me about not being ready for anything serious. Reply to this Question
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (16 July 2009):
 i think because you and him share such a connection and such a bond together you feel you will be with him one day!
you won't let another guy even come close just incase by the time you are with another guy he's ready to be with you and it's not fair because this will always have a hold on you.
he's told you he's not ready for a relationship and you feel if you give another guy the green light to be with you that chances are he'll be ready and you'll miss out on what could have been something spectacular.
but you can't keep waiting around forever you need to tell him this you say to him look i really like you i think we could be good together but you need to know whether he will be committed to be with you now or whether he still has doubts as to whether or not he is ready for this relationship.
if he says he's not ready then you have to accept that as the red light for him and give some guys a chance and try to forget him i know it'll be hard because you think if he wants a relationship whilst im with someone i'm naffed because you want so much to be with this guy that you really think could be the one and you'll already be with someone.
but you won't know unless you take that risk!
hope this help :)
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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