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writes:I cheated on my girlfriend a few days ago. Not really doing anything actually just making out but I feel incredibly guilty about it and am not sure what to do. Please give me advice.
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reader, stupid123 +, writes (8 June 2009):
stupid123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for that last response, it helps alot! I've learned my lesson.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): Absolutely do not tell her. While it may clear your conscience, it will only cause her pain. You've learned a lesson, now you should deal with the consequences - not her. You're not a bad guy, you just made a mistake, and a pretty minor one at that. So don't tell, and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): I cheated on my girlfriend and felt guilty, that guilt later turned to paranoia that she's doing the same thing and really got me feeling terrible, and also strained the relationship. I wish i told her, but it's been so long now that if i bring it up she will definitely leave me. trust me, confessing is the best way to go about it for both ur own sake and the relationships.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): As long as you feel comfortable with that decision, then yes, that is okay. It is your choice on how to handle this, and if that feels like the best way forward for you, then that's fine. Good luck. x
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reader, stupid123 +, writes (6 June 2009):
stupid123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI learned my lesson and I'm never going to do it again. I do not want to lose her and I swore to myself from now on I'll be good to her. Is that okay?
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (6 June 2009):
 Say absolutely nothing. It is not wrong to do this as your experience is a learning opportunity.It will help you to understand yourself a little more. a tell all relationship will never survive, in fact if you feel guilty then this means you undertand the value of what you have which may not have been the case had you not had this experience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): It might help if you are honest with her. She might leave you, but at least it will be off your chest.
Or you could try and just forget it ever happened, and vow that from now on, you will focus fully on your relationship with your girlfriend.
But are you happy with your girlfriend? Do you want to be with her? If you are making out with another girl, it suggests to me that you are not completely happy with your relationship. If that is the case, then you will have to decide whether to try and sort out those issues with your girlfriend, or whether to end the relationship and go your seperate ways. x
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