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writes: i have been with my fiance for 3 years and i made a terrible mistake of cheating on him ive hurt him so much but i love him we have split up 2 weeks ago but i love him so much and only ever wanna be with him for my life i love him so much and its killing me being away from him. He wont take me back though please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2006): Trust Trust Trust - a massive concept which is huge to regain once gone.
Everyone is different, and as one of the replies says, it largely relies on what stage your relationship was at when this occured as to whether he will take you back.
It sounds as though the wound is fresh, and will doubtless take some time to heal - if he is right for you, then it will work out, in time, but the fact you cheated suggests the relationship may not be right for you anyway.
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reader, kitty83 +, writes (10 April 2006):
I would first of all tell your husband how sorry you are, but if he does take you back its going to be hard work. My ex cheated on me and i missed him like crazy, i still do but i cant forget what he done, they images are stuck in my head. I really feel for you as every one makes mistakes. I hope you do get a second chance with your fiance and if you do show him every day how much you love him.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (9 April 2006):
 People make mistakes in life. You, unfortuantely made a huge one !! It sounds like you are aware of this too. The idea of putting it behind you is easy, since you made the error. Speaking as a guy, let me tell you what is going through your "fiances" mind.
First he's stunned.
He's hurt, big time.
Trust is gone. This is very important.
Also, equally importnat to him is the image burned into his head, lustfully having great sex with a stranger. I'm being graphic, but your fiance can hear you moaning with another man, imagine ALL the things you might have done, questioned his own status as "your man", wonder how much you liked it, imagine you cleaning up afterwards, picture you relaxing with the guy when finished, wondering if you did it again,wondering if besides the guilt did she enjoy it. What did the other guy thing? What happens if we ever bump into him, some other guy knows all my fiancees hot spots or the buttons to push etc.
The list is endless. There is nothing you can to to fix that part. Just when he thinks it's out of his head, it could come back because of something you say or do.
I don't know what brought you to this point. You should elaborate. What were the reasons behind it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2006): Nothing you can do can move him. If he knows you want to get back together, that's all you can do. He is under no obligation to take you back, so it's entirely up to him if he does. Just hope you treated him well otherwise during those 3 years and maybe he'll find the strength to forgive you.
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