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writes: I've got a fantastic bf who is lovely and sweet, and we've been together for 2months.But iv fancied a guy for over a year and we kissed a couple times 3months ago, we went on a date but after he kissed me on the cheek and when i asked him about it he txt me 'at the moment i want to be mates' weve remaind friends and go out or chill once or twice a week. We flirt alot n are comfortable with each other.But fri we went out and got drunk he told me he fancied me we went to his for pizza he made a move but i just played him up. In the morning we chilled watching tv and talking and ended having sex.I can't stop thinking about him and feel guilty because im hate people that cheat!!!I want to not like him because my bf is great and i think i would regret breaking up with him!!! But i also think im falling for my friend (i don't know how he feels and im scarred to ask)!!What do i do!?!?!?!Thanx for your help! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2007): The fact that you cheated on your boyfriend after being in a 2 month relationship with him suggests that you don't truly respect him or value him enough to stay with him.
You should be fair to him, tell him the truth, apologize, and then leave. You really do seem like you are into the other guy, and you need to take a leap of faith and see what comes of that relationship.
Feeling guilty about having cheated is a good thing, but if you don't do anything about it to make the situation better then it is a useless emotion. Set things right with your old boyfriend, pursue things with the new guy, and then try not to cheat again.
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (7 November 2006):
 Your post says a lot about how you really feel. I don't think you love your boyfriend, you hardly mention him in your post.
I feel that your heart is with this other guy and you hope to be with him. If you had the choice between the two, I feel you would choose this other guy.
Only you can decide which one you want, your heart wants this other guy, but your head is telling you to stay with your boyfriend.
I think you should take some time away from both of them and sort your own feelings out. I think you should cease contact with this other guy. He takes advantage and seems to be after only sex. You say your boyfriend is fantastic, lovely, sweet, great and you would regret losing him. To me, this other guy seems like a player.
Make things work with your boyfriend, this other guy has no respect for you. Friends don't take advantage.
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reader, Toria +, writes (7 November 2006):
 I think you need to start by sorting in your head which one it is you actually truly want to be with, once you've done that you need to act on your decision, you can't just stay with your boyfriend if he isn't the one you want to be with as not only isn't it fair on him but it also isn't being true to yourself and your true feelings, but if it is your boyfriend you truly want to be with then you need to cut away from this friend so you can move on in your current relationship.
Good Luck :o)
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