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writes:Why don't I feel guilty for cheating? I've been with my bf for a year and things have been really bad between us for a while now, we can't seem to fix it but he won't let me break up with him. Last night I ended up giving a blow job to a guy from work, it was planned and we had a great time. Why don't I feel guilty? I've never cheated on anyone before and this is completely new to me. Do I have no morals or is it a reflection on the crumbling state of our relationship? What should I do next?
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reader, debzzido  +, writes (24 June 2008):
 Subconciously you know this relationship is over, so you dont feel bad about what you did because in your mind your not really in a relationship, it takes 2 to make it work, if you wanted to get out awhile ago and he wont let you ,thats not how it works, you both have to want it, if you really dont want him , get rid of him any way you can , maybe thats why you cheated on him , hoping it would make him leave on his own. honestly no one likes change, so its very hard for him, but its hard for you too, have a deep talk with him and tell him there is no Letting, its what you want, its your life.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (24 June 2008):
 Cheating is a bad thing, but we should be careful in considering it synonym with having "no morals". Having no morals means you don't have absolutely any, and that doesn't happen often with human beings.
Whether your cheating on your boyfriend is a reflection of your being bad, or not caring about the relationship anymore, I think only you can tell. And, it could well be that you're both bad and you don't care aobut the relationship; the two things aren't opposites.
In your case, I think it is clear that no only there are not any feelings left; you two are also very upset with each other.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 June 2008):
 What do you mean he won't let you break up? Just do it, he'll thank you for it later. It's not like you are married, just go your separate ways.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (24 June 2008):
 You probably arent really in love with him if you dont feel guilty so move on so that you can both be happy elsewhere x
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (24 June 2008):
 Well in my opinion when something like that happens it's because you don't have any feelings left for your current BF.
I believe that if there's love, you won't have the urges or the need to "play" with another person since you're satisfied with the one you currently have.
If things doesn't work out between you two, there's two option really.
1- Fix it.
2- Break up.
He doesn't want to break up? That kind of decision need no more than one person to take effect.
You need to think not only about yourself but about him also. If you don't love him, don't you think that he deserve someone who's going to love him?
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