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writes:Dear cupid,i realy need your help becouse iam lost,i had a boyfriend of one year and we where so happy until i cheated on him with his brother ,he found me in bed with him,he broke up with me and i continued dating his brother,after a couple of month i heard that he has a new girlfriend but she than dumped him becouse he was cheating on her.i broke up with his brother so that i can be with him again.the thing that is bothering me now is that he is back together with that girl who dumped him and i heard that he once loved her very much,my guestion is,is he stil inlove with m or he just want to use me?or he loves the other girl?
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (29 September 2010):
 Dont waste your time anymore, this one is over.
You have already broke his heart and probably messed up his relationship with his brother nice work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): I think its over and how you can sleep with brothers is beyond...is he using you? Complete laughable. You need to find a new guy and don't sleep with his dad either. If he has uncles then they're ok to sleep with. What am I talking about, why are you limiting yourself with those cousin you haven't gotten to yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): Nothing is impossible, but as the others have said, you not only cheated on him with another guy, when you SAY you were happy, but with HIS brother, that is the ultimate betrayal I'm afraid, as it will have altered his relationship with his brother and his outlook on TRUST.
Continuing reading your question, you BOTH seem unable to be in a relationship without cheating, as your boyfriend is or has done the same to someone else, which shows a lack of emotional maturity of both your parts - so perhaps NEITHER of you are ready or FOUND the one who will turn you into monogamous partners.
I think YOU need to ask yourself IF you say you were HAPPY with your boyfriend, WHY would you get into bed with someone else ( brother or not) because IF this is what you DO when HAPPY why ever would any man TRUST you, let alone the boyfriend (brother) you now say you want to be with.
So were you really happy and just thought you would TRY to have your cake and eat it, and NOT consider what this would mean for the TWO brothers, as they cannot STOP being brothers..they will have this as part their past forever.
OR were you starting to get bored 12 months into a relationship and without ENDING one relationship first, thought you would cling on to one, whilst taking the hand of another, as you actually dated HIS brother for two months, you didn't STOP as soon as you were discovered.
Now all of a sudden you want the first brother back...I think you need to do a lot of thinking about YOURSELF before embarking on any relationship, and IF, and when you do have another relationship, always END one relationship, before ever getting into bed with someone else, it shows integrity and the ability for a man to see you can be trusted.
Jilly
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (29 September 2010):
There's no way he will take you back. I doubt he's even bothered about his own brother anymore. Learn from this big mistake and never make it again.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (29 September 2010):
 I'm sorry but there's very little chance he'll take you back. You didn't cheat with a stranger but a family member he trusted. You forever tainted the image of his brother in his mind and probably made him feel like less because while you were "happy" with him, you chose his brother and his bed anyway. Even IF he takes you back, there will be a LOT of issues. Trust being one of them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): He did love you
you cheated on him with his own brother.... and probably broke his heart
It would take alot of work for him to trust you again if you were back together.
If he does take you back, id move slow and be honost. If not, probably best move on and dont make the mistake again..
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