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writes:I cheated on my boyfriend and I found out I was pregnant in a month time. When I told my boyfriend about it he told me to give birth but after he will have a DNA test. I had to tell him the truth that I cheated on him.he then said he is not responsible since I cheated on him. The truth is that I don't know the one responsible. Now both of them have abandoned me.i have given birth to a boy but he doesn't resemble any of them. My conscience is telling me its my boyfriends. What can I do, I need your help.
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reader, CherryR07  +, writes (11 November 2018):
Have the DNA test. Thinking the baby is his, doesn't definitely mean it is his. Do the DNA test to double check, then inform the father. If he doesn't take responsibility, then get some legal arrangements put into place. It's his child too, whether it's your boyfriend's or the other guy's.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (10 November 2018):
 You "conscience" or "feelings" is no way to PROVE he is the dad.
DO the DNA test when the baby is born, if it's his, then it's his. HE CAN NOT refute DNA test.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2018): Have the DNA test done, determine the biological-father. Once you have, get legal arrangements to receive child-support for the child.
The father might not care about you; but he has equal responsibility for financial-support and well-being of the child. Do what's best for the child.
Nothing else matters.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 November 2018):
 I think you could go and have the DNA test done, you cannot determine paternity based on your " conscience " or hunch.
If your ex bf is actually the father- then you can and should resort to the law to make sure he takes care of his child financially. In your country too, there are laws granting any child their right to guidance, care, assistance and MAINTENANCE by both parents , whether they are still together or not.
( The Children's Act, 1998 ).
Ditto if it turns out that the child's father is the other guy. To a court of law it does not matter if a guy wants to be a daddy or not, if he loves the woman who gave him a child or if he hates her guts. The law exist to protect the interest of the child- even when conceived by mistake.
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