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I caught my boyfriend of 6 years watching transexual porn!

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Question - (27 May 2010) 8 Answers - (Newest, 22 June 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *uddlybear writes:

Yesterday I caught my boyfriend of 6 years watching transexual porn, he cried and claimed that it was normal and that he wasnt interested in men.

Hes always told me that hes interested in strap ons and female domination and has requested that I do things to him but ive never felt comfortable with it so we agreed to leave it for now. He says that he likes transexual porn as its men dressed as women, and he see's them as WOMEN he just likes how dominating they are. However I have a gay brother who's into the same thing.

I did however make him watch the porn with me as I was confused as to what shemale porn was.

I really dont know what to think of it, we are having a baby that is due in 7 weeks so I didnt want to cause arguments while my head and hormones are all over the place and just comforted him about it, but it makes me paranoid that he might be unsure of his sexuality, I love him so much and would hate him to be living in denial but hes said that hes not attracted to men at all.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010):

hi, i'm a male, and let me tell you that this is completly normal. it's just a fantasy. I did watch them some times, for the heck. But, no worries. I'm maried, and love my gf, and would never think of sleeping with a tranny. but, watching it is ok. don't worry :) trust me

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010):

Don't make a big deal its just porn and if his fascination with such porn is not having an effect on your relationship then ignore it. You are making something out of nothing.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2010):

More than likely, he has been watchimg porn long enough that 'regular' porn lost it's ability to stimulate him. Habitual porn use has that affect on the user, it's called escalation....when looking for something new to excite him, he stumbled on Tranny porn and his penis responded because it is novel and forbidden...that doesn't make him gay...just makes him embarrassed.

Try not to give him a hard time about this unless his porn use starts causing problems in

your sex life (which happens much more

frequently than people are aware of).

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (27 May 2010):

Honeypie agony auntI don't transsexual porn for straight people either, it's fake chicks with a dick.. basically...

I guess it can be something different to watch?

I would talk to him and go with my gut.

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A female reader, Gabrielle Stoker United States +, writes (27 May 2010):

Gabrielle Stoker agony auntI wouldn't particularly worry about it. A lot of straight men are into transexual porn. I had a guy once tell me that he while he would never actually want to be with one, he found the visual stimulation very exciting.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2010):

I really do not understand what the problem is. Transexuals can be submissive or dominant. I find some of the submissives to be very attractive and quite a turn on, despite the fact that they have penises, they are sexual beings as are all of us. Unless your boyfriend is in a real relationship with a TS I would say you have nothing to worry about.

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A male reader, Felix Francis United Arab Emirates +, writes (27 May 2010):

Dear,

Difficult times to understand that you are pregnant, best way do not bother him or give a slight doubt that you are aware of his stance, this issue have to be handled by an councellor initally, then you can take a lead to council him showing the child as pretext and this is how you can change his way of thinking, give some extras as he likes and slowly take it back.

felix

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A female reader, straight to the truth United Kingdom +, writes (27 May 2010):

listen to what he says honey, it is just porn and we all watch things we wuld never dream of doing in real life.

its porn, its there for one thing and that is all.

you have asked him if he has any interest in it in the real world and he has said no. I would trust him about his.

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