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writes:OK, bizarre story.Boyfriend of 6 months told me he was going away for the wknd for work. No big deal, I travel for work too. I was driving to a friend's place on the weekend - I see my BOYFRIEND walking with another girl, and her dog. Not holding hands of anything. I was shocked.I confronted them calmly, said Hi, thought you were meant to be away. He said - I was - I was given the sack from my job yesterday, very upset, flew back in this morning, just wanted to talk to a friend before I saw you. Nothing going on with her. She then said hi - known him for a while.I just said "Ok then" and left. He then sent me a text saying he's really stressed out at the moment, and needs a bit of breathing space.I've checked up - he has lost his job which is devestating. Why didn't he tell me? Two weeks ago he told me he loved me (he's 33, I'm 24), wants a future toghether and looking at properties. He's never mentioned her before, he knows my male friends.What to think? Has he been cheating this whole time?
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reader, DIE-romantic.  +, writes (3 July 2007):
 It really does sound all abit too suspicious. Confront him and ask him out right:Why hasnt he mentioned her before?Why hadnt he told you about the job?And most of all ask him: Is he cheating?And is he really planning to spend his life with you?So you can move on, and you can find someone who wont mess you around. Take care love xxxxx
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (2 July 2007):
 Well yes it does sound fishy but the operative word is 'sounds'. In other words I think it would be unwise to jump to conclusions ahead of the established facts espcecially as you freely admit there were no visible signs of anything other than a friendship intimacy.
The text is however suspicious but I barely think tieing yourself up in knots over the maybes and possibles will help. There are plenty of plausible reasons for not telling you about losing his job, shame and suddenly not being able to provide a future being the most obvious one. So.... dont let your mind race ahead of itself and try and keep grounded...
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (2 July 2007):
 I would ask him why there has never been any mention of this girl before if she and him are such good friends. It sounds a little dodgy to me and I would start demanding answers. I can understand him wanting to chat about loosing his job but why didn't he tell you he was back instead of you finding out by spotting him.
xxxxxx
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reader, flower girl +, writes (2 July 2007):
 Ok if she is that much of a good friend that he goes to see her before he even lets you know he has lost his job, or that he is back , why have you not met her before?
I have to agree with eddie it does sound abit suspious, maybe he is just a coward, and 'i need a bit of breathing space' is a gentle way of letting you down.
I would move on now get out there and have fun and meet some new people.
Take care.xx.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (2 July 2007):
 It sounds fishy to me. Everything he said could be true but you have to weigh the odds of it actually being true. Unless he stumbled across this person by accident, I would assume you'd be the person he called first.
The fact he followed up with a text saying he needed some breathing room puts the icing on the cake. That is to much of a coincidence. Was he cheating? Quite possibly. Only he knows for sure.
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