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26-29,
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writes:Well it looks like I've found myself between a rock and a really hard place..We've been together for 2 months, everthing's been going great. I know who she really is, she's sweet and cute and I guess a little on the shy side, I accept all of who she is. But I don't think she can.She's got a big drug problem it seems.. She smokes weed like it's oxygen and her tolerance is to the point where it barely touches her, so I don't have much problem with that. I smoke it too, I won't lie.. But whenever she wants to have fun, it always has to involve alcohol, she says it "Helps her socially".And she does pills too, she seems kind of into snorting whatever pills she can get her hands on..And it worries me a lot.. I'd do all that too, but I'm incredibly paranoid/safe about it.. Either way, that's not the issue..She doesn't think she has a problem, she says it's a habit..I care so deeply for this girl, I don't want her to slip up and kill herself. But I'm afraid that if I keep pushing the issue, she'll leave me... Please help...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 September 2011):
 you guys are so young...
you really need to talk to an adult and get her some help.
Weed will not kill you... most doctors don't even bat an eye when told about it... (BTW you should always tell your doctor when doing drugs even illegal ones)
BUT the pills and the ALCOHOL will KILL HER. and at such a young age... it will kill her FAST...
she needs help. she needs ADULT help.
she may hate you with a passion for "ratting her out" but if you care about this girl you must do the right thing and tell an adult.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2011): Whatever you do, don't start with the pills! Alcohol is bad enough. Weed, well, I have known people like that and some grow out of it, some don't. I've known weed smokers you'd have no idea, they function fine. But snorting/taking/smoking/shooting up pills is a one way ticket to hell.
She needs real help, professional help. And she has to want to get it. She may need intervention, but even that doesn't always help. Unfortunately she is not in a good place and you can't save her unless she wants to save herself. And yes, it could kill her with a slip up or even if she tries to stop and it is too late.
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reader, Thelaird1  +, writes (12 September 2011):
 This girl is on a downward spiral and can possibly take you along for the ride. You have posted your concerns on here, which is a good sign that you care, but you must be more practical.You both are really young and it will be easier for you both to get off the drugs and make something of your lives.The first step, I think is to let her parents, and your own know what the problem is. Chances are, you will lose this girl but you have to look at the bigger picture and do the right thing for you both. You both need to speak to a professional about your problems and both get help. You can even both support each other in becoming clean.You seem to genuinely care about this girl, so prove your sincerity to her parents and let her get on the road to recovery. You have had some good advice from others too and I really hope you do the right thing.Please let us know what happens. Bed of luck
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 September 2011):
 She needs help and a lot of it. More then you can provide.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (12 September 2011):
 You have to look at this objectivly and not from a selfish point of view. You dont want her to break up with you, so you are willing to keep quiet and let her possibly die?
If you care as much as you say you do, then you have to realise that the best thing for her is not to be dating, but to be getting some serious help. She has a problem.
Talk to a teacher, or her parents, get her the help she needs, because she may not be around to date in 6 months or a year. Yes she will probably hate you, dump you, and shout at you, but she needs help, in in time she will realise you did it because you care.
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reader, hopeFUL_romantic_13  +, writes (12 September 2011):
Please inform her parents. I understand you care about her and don't want her to break up with you if you did, but it is for the best. Her habits need to be put to an end. I is very dangerous. Do what is best FOR HER. She wull probably be mad and break up with you, but her life is on the line. She needs to be saved. She'll thank you for it one day.
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