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writes:Hi. I am 15 and have got many problems.Firstly I can't stop using this adult chatroom. This chatroom is mainly used by men and of course is only for people over 18. When I'm on it I completley reinvent myself and make up story's as I go along. Then theirs who I am, I've always been a bit of a loner and never had a realationship before (apart from 1 where i didnt actually fancy her but couldn't hurt her) and I'm unsure about my sexuality. I do also get quite depressed and very streesed. I get really busy volunterring to do everything and having little time to relax which has led me to have a couple of major panic attacks.Am i fine? Have i got some mental illness? should i relax more? or change my life? cause to be honest at the mo its feels like i don't have one. Finnaly is my use of this chatroom dangerous? I'm confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): hi stop talking to older men you do not know who they are as a victim years ago be careful if your imagination is that goood write a book , the inter net can be dangerous ! trust no one that you do not know if i was your mother i would stop you from using the net what appears fun can be dangerous so join a good writing group instead ,or study for your future dear god you have me worried and i do not know you
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 October 2008):
Dude you are just a teenager. Chillout and breathe.
It is TERRIFYING when you hit your age and suddenly realise that you have NO idea who you are. Now is suddenly the time when it hits you. You are on the starting line and ready to start heading to who you want to be. But since you don't know who that is, it's very scary charging off in an unknown direction.
Inventing a persona online is a coping mechanism. Some people get really into vampyres as they want to be that glamorous mysterious person they read about and watch in films. Some people get really into fan fiction and put them selves in Harry Potter novels.
The danger you have by going into an adult chatroom is that:
a) you are being exposed to images and ideas that you may not be emotionally mature enough to handle in large doses. (I had to explain to some kids the other day why Borat was taking the mick out of racists and not out of jewish people)
b) since you are a bit vulnerable and unsure of yourself you are very open to being manipulated.
My advice is to volunteer for less things so you are less stressed, and continue your persona but in a different chat room - one that is open to ALL ages so you are not stuck with a bunch of kids but there is someone to keep an eye out for psychos.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (22 October 2008):
being a young teen is not easy, you have alot of hormones racing around, which can lead you to question your sexuality. the adult chat room is probably something that most teens do at that age, i remember i used to use them when i was a young teen. simply delete your acount. if you are having panic attacks you should see your doctor they may beable to help you out. but alot of the emotions that you are feeling are normal for your age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): Yes,you do,but these problems can be easily fixed,so don't worry.First,you should delete your account in the adult chat room,and just try to avoid all chat rooms that are not within your age group.Then you should ask for your parents to make you an appointment with a counselor to help you with your depression.Take time off from your volunteering and just relax.Finally,go to your doctor and
talk about your panic attacks and symptoms and see if he'll prescribe you some medicine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): I don't think your use of the chat room is dangerous but I do think it is ill advised. You are decieving people into believing you are over 18 when clearly you are not, and if those conversations are of a sexual nature and crucially because you are only 15... you are placing those who genuinely believe your story at risk of being branded as paedophiles.
Why not join chat rooms which are more suited to your age and where you can be yourself and interact with your peers not people who love the fantasy figure and figment of your imagination. You certainly won't find answers to your problems pretending to be what you're not
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