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writes:Ok, How can I begin, there is this girl who goes to school with me, she really really shy, pretty, smart, and athletic. I mean she is so shy that she only like talks to like 3 people, ok. I created a myspace like 2 months ago, and stummbled across her name. I added her and i sent her some messages. She replyied back, at one point i sent her a message saying, "Would you mind if i message you a bit on a daily basis." She replied by saying, "Sure I just dont check everyday, so i may not reply right away." From that momment on she has not yet sent me a message. I had this crush on her for like 2 years starting in 9th grade, and I tought by communicating to her via myspace she might want to talk to me, then I would talk to her in real life. I even added her like number 3 on m tops, just to like send her a message, that i was interested in her.Then like a couple weeks later, I started commenting on her page, she finally replied back. Then she stopped again, completely. She has even started denying all my comments. And over the span of 2 months there is like only 10 comments on her pg. Does she hate me now completely? Why doesn't she want to talk to me? And should I just get over her, and if your answer is yes, how do I do so, I cant stop thinking about her, she is always on my mind. What is next for me.
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reader, ilu_ilu_ilu +, writes (4 April 2009):
i know how you feel, i have a similar situation. Honestly, the thing that worked for me was, i blocked that person. not permanently, but fer a bit i did. sometimes i unblock. its just so i don't make myself seem like an idiot. if you involve yourself with more things,different friends, you wont think to much about it. I know everytime i see thi sguy i still got some feelings, but they are mostly "why doesn't he just say hello". don't worry about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat first answer spoke to me, you obviously have a nack for stuff like this. She is my first love and I am realizing that you dont always have to like someone. Its better to focus on othr things, such as hobbies and friends. And I was just trying to be friendly. Tahnk you and God bless.
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reader, PeteTTT  +, writes (4 April 2009):
In your teens these crushes can be unbearably painful and invariably, when the object of your desires doesn't reciprocate, the heartache can be horrible, I remember those feelings, they're intensely painful and the world feels like an awful place. You have my sympathy. I'm sorry to say though that there's no easy way out of this one, time is a great healer but I'd suggest you simply stop messaging her and try to get on with things you enjoy, try to distract yourself with hobbies, friends and interests. If she's not responded by now she's probably not on the same page as you and you've got to be careful, the more you message her, there's a danger that she'll stop being indifferent towards you and actively start disliking you. Respect her if she's not responding and don't write again, not even a "Well obviously you're not interested so I'll stop" messsage, retain your dignity, walk away with your head held high and your shoulders back, you gave it your best shot but it just wasn't meant to be. Don't be too disheartened though, you may not feel like it right now but you WILL have learned from this experience and you'll do better in time when another girl catches your eye (and there'll be lots of girls who do yet, mark my words)! Also, it does get easier with time, you'll be able to handle future rejection better and will become a stronger person.One of the strange quandries of the human mind is that if something comes too easily it's frequently unwanted, you've clearly shown her that you care about her and it's probably scared her right off, especially if she's shy by nature. I always liken it to a cat with a piece of string, to keep the cat interested in a piece of string you have to wiggle it about and if you keep it just out of the cat's reach, the cat'll swipe and jump at it all day. If you give the cat the string, it'll sniff it once or twice and then walk off bored. People are similar, particularly when it comes to choosing partners. If you're feeling really low then I'd suggest you start exercising plenty if you don't already, exercise will tire you out a bit which'll take your energy away from being sad and give you something intense to focus your frustration on, it'll give you a great bod for when you DO get a girl interested and it also releases endorphines into the blood supply which give you a natural high and sense of wellbeing, it'll clear your mind and help you to relax.This might feel like the end of the world right now but believe me, it'll happen again a few times yet, more times if you're a genuinely nice guy than if you're a bit of a rogue (remember the cat and the string, women tend to like the challenge of taming a rogue, nice guys tend to get a harder time of it but ultimately tend to find happiness in the long run with a similarly nice woman).Chin up, buddy, you'll feel better in time, trust me, one day you'll look back at this and think about it wistfully, I hope you'll remember it like I do, laughing at how inconsequential it now seems in my life yet at the time, how it tore me to bits! Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger, you're young yet and have lots of great things in life to look forward to, even if you can't see them just yet. You seem like a nice guy so if she's not interested it's her loss, good luck, I hope things work out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): im 13 to and iv had similar problems. try speaking to her in real life and see what she says mate. iv found that if she admits she does not "want" you then i sort of go off them eventually. it might take a while but try focusing on other girls it can really help. but you never no she might just be to shy to speak to you if she no's you like her. so go for it mate but dont get your hopes up
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