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writes:I have a problem. I think i'm in love. This is weird - i met this woman about 9 years older then me i'm in my 20's and she's in her 30's. She used to drive me after work we used to work together. Then I started to fall in love with her. She is married and with a couple of kids. I don't know what it is but for the past 2 years I've been thinking of her non-stop - and now i think of her when i'm about to go to sleep. i dont know if its love or what is it! I have never had this kind of feelings for a woman ever. I think of kissing her on her lips and other places. is this normal? I don't think I'll ever tell her - do you think its possible that she may have some psychic sense as to how i'm feeling? and do you think that she feels the same in anyway - we still talk on the phone about little things here and there. ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2007): Tell her you had a sexual dream about her and can no longer accept rides with her because the experience was so vivid and worse you like it. Tell her you don't regret the dream but you are embarrassed. Then say maybe it is just her perfume or her sexy legs, dismiss it to purely sensory things over which she has some control.
Women are glutton for attention. They are also full of fantasies although they never admit it. Also, their favorite subject is themselves. So you get another ride to work the next morning and act sheepishly toward her at work... "embarrassed that you have borne your soul."
She will forgive all and be around the following week to take you to work. Look then for signs of her wearing sexier clothing and increased amount of perfume. She is giving you the green light and at some point this soccer mom is going to be driving home to hubby and her kids with your small bank deposit and a smug smile on her face. It will put her in such a good mood that the pheramones get loose and her husband will naturally be more attracted to her and he will get some action too. Get greedy and press for ownership and she will cut you off fast to protect her family. Besides, think about it what does this 30 year old woman want from some 20-nothing guy? The answer is a non-threatening diversion from boredom. Anything more and she will cut you off and maybe even tell her husband to break your legs. I gave this advice one time previously to a friend of mine having an affair with a married woman. He just couldn't accept the non-ownership concept. She told her husband that he was sexually harrassing her, and her husband kicked the crap out of my stupid friend and broke his arm. What else could I say, "I told you so." The woman cut him off cold. Think about it. My friend could still be having the excitement of a hot affair, she would be reved up for better sex with her husband, and they could all be good friends for years in a very stable situation. But no... the dumb guy always wants ownership rights and blows the fun for all. The bottom line is that the woman must feel absolutely secure that she has full control and safety over the stud service. Women enjoy sexual power over several men but they have to be absolutely sure you won't cheat on them bringing disease into their lives, and you won't come around one day looking for ownership.
Lastly, don't talk about love. You are twenty-nothing and this just makes you sound like some kind of freaking unstable nutjob stalker. In terms of prestige, a 30 year old woman and a twenty-nothing year old male is akin to living in a ghetto for her. Face it, you can't be well educated or rich if you are bumming a ride to work with her. So accept it. In terms of life you are basically a loser. Imagine the look on her parents faces if she took you home to introduce you. They would crap in their plates. Love? You have a lot of nerve loser, clearly you were raised by a woman not a man. On second thought, your brain is too scrambled for this. Sounds like your X chromosome is more powerful than your Y chromosome; instead of being an xY man, you are an Xy doormat. I hope her husband finds out and takes you home by the nape of the neck to your mamma and tells her about the dirty little thoughts in your mind. You little she-he, I outta...
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reader, eddie +, writes (5 July 2007):
 She's married and has kids. Keep your pants on and give your head a shake. You have absolutely NO BUSINESS acting on your thoughts, under any circumstances. NONE. No matter what you feel or despite any invitation you could potentially get. If you were to act on your feelings, you'd be show no moral integrity and you'd be breaking the code of ethics we hope good people try to live by. Now that you know this, anything that you do to gain her attention is improper and devious. There is no other way to look it. Things are either right or wrong. This is 100% wrong. You're lusting after someone, big deal. Enjoy the thought and move on.
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reader, sexi  +, writes (5 July 2007):
 Hi, you are haeding for trouble. It would be one thing if she was to leave her husband for you but there are chidren that are invovled here. Stop entertainig her calls and that would be a start to getting over her. If her family is broken up and she and her husband get divorced, she would probably keep the kids, are you ready to be daddy to her children at the age of 20?You are young and can find many young girls for yourself. Lets just hope that this is a phase that you going through and that you would soon get over it. Stop what you doing,you are the one that would end up getting hurt. Go out and look for someone that really loves you and knows your worth and stop wasting your time on someone that is looking for some meaningless fun, tell her to find it else where.
Good Luck, Let me know what you have decided.
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