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writes:Hey Guys and GirlsI am a relationship with this guy and everything is going really well and I love him to bits.The problem is when it comes to penitrating him I cant seem to stay erect, even tho I am really horny.So he always has to do it me. I can't understand it and he is been very reasonable about it. Is there anything I can do to solve this problem?P.S we don't use condoms as we are in a long term relationship and have both been tested.
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reader, clairabella +, writes (13 April 2010):
 If this is the first man you have been in a relationship with, you may be slightly nervous which can cause erectile disfunction. A good idea is to try moreforeplay beforethe big moment to make you feel more comfortable. The fact that you have explained about the problem to him is showing you have a comfortable relationship, yet if this continues it may be good to speak to your gp. For the meantime you may try doing different things or using viagra or different flavoured lubes to get yourself more into it. x
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reader, Stephanie Henderson  +, writes (13 April 2010):
Okay so don't worry alot of people can't stay erect! There are always toys(maybe)... Dildos ya know? But hon even if he has to do it to you atleast he loves you and you can take pills .. Just be careful and good luck ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010): Maybe you need to work on your penis-control. How does it work for you when you masturbate? Can you go on for long with little stimulation? Or maybe the tightness of the anus provides too much stimulation? Work on different pressure with you hand. You could also look into buying some toys (sleeves, masturbators, flash-lights etc) and testing out if you can keep your erection while using those. Im sure you will get there. You could try using lube if the anus is too tight upon entry. I guess if the penetration is too much hard work, you go soft simply because of that too. Some also have problems staying hard if the pressure is too weak. Have you had sex before and everything was fine, or is this your first times having to penetrate? It could be nervousness and prestation-anxiety.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (13 April 2010):
 I would definately see a doctor about this. Being a female and non medical person I don't feel qualified to offer any other advice. Well done you on finding such a great mate.
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reader, hpoco  +, writes (13 April 2010):
 Have you penetrated other guys before? If so, maybe its a mental block kind of thing now. Does it really stress you out? Maybe you should just not try to do it for a while and only do it again when the urge becomes ridiculously strong. If nothing else helps, you could always ask a doctor.
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reader, brokeninside +, writes (13 April 2010):
 well you two can always do a role play before you penetrate him, or he can give you a handjob and maybe that will get you erect long enough.
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