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writes:My favorite past time was simply kissing my soon to be husband. We have been married for over a year now and I simply cant even stand the thought of him kissing me. I love him and we have a great relationship. Is this a disorder, what is my problem?
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (2 July 2008):
 "I can't stand the thought of kissing my husband. Have I got some sort of disorder?"Yeah its called "holy crap i'm married to someone i can't stand the sight of or the thought of kissing them-itus"the only cure is to take 3 convosations.apply one to the affected area ( your husband )the second to a marriage councliorand if that fails apply the third to a divorce lawyer.
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reader, xcharlottex +, writes (2 July 2008):
Before you get married there's always somewhere to go in a relationship, something to look forward to... but being married wiht someone is about the furthest you can go in a relationship, and maybe you feel quite sick becausee your missing this and now he's too close and your feelings about this are manefestering (excuse the spelling) in the disgust you feel when he kisses you. I would say maybe some time apart would do you good, I dont mean going on a break I mean, maybe yu should take a holiday alone or go out with your friends more, perhaps when you start to micss him you'll want to kiss him again..and wy dont you try dating your husband? like once a week go out on a date to keep things fresh?
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (2 July 2008):
 Hi,
I have never heard this one before, I think you are going to have to be a bit more specific mate.
Do you still have physical contact, hugging , holding hands and sex?
Has his personal habits suddenly become too much for you to handle?
We don't know, but if you can't pinpoint it, you may have to seek professional help, I'm sure it will start to get to him after a while.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): Okay, this is a strange one to me; is it just the kissing that is troubling you? Are you okay with all other physical contact? Holding hands, hugging? Making love? No turn off's? Just the kissing? Is there any bad memory that you can recall about kissing him, maybe a bad taste, or smell?
As you did enjoy it so much before you got married, it is strange that now suddenly you resent it. When did this change, on your honeymoon? Did oral sex perhaps have an influence? I need you to think; if you can establish when and what caused the change, it might be easier to find a solution.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): Thats a bit bizzare. Why don't you try and think back and see what put you off? Was it a gradual thing or was it sudden?Have you spoken to your husband about it?! To be honest I'd read other comments - partly because I haven't heard of any disorders of such - but if you get really worried talk to a consuellor.Although its only a minor thing, even going once does tend to take a lot off peoples backs and they might have a reason behind it.Who knows?!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (2 July 2008):
I don't think it's a disorder. Not wanting to kiss a man has probably never been seen as a medical problem.
However, there is obviously something that's changed.
How do you feel? Do you still do romantic things together? Does he still brush his teeth as much? Do you still make the effort and dress up for each other?
It could just be that things have got a bit routine for you both. Go out to a nice restaurant together and make sure you look and more importantly FEEL really sexy. Get a bottle of wine and see what happens!
Good Luck!! xx
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