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writes:Himy "friend" developed feelings for my boyfriend and would do anything to spend time alone with him at a party she had i found them jus sitting in the kitchen talking (fair enuff) then in the living room, and when i walked in she walked out, he wouldnt tell me what was going on...after that experience it was never the same and he ended up leaving me for a girl in his work who had shown she was interested and he was "flatterd"anyway now 2 years later im in a better relationship and i am terrified history will repeat itself i watch peope at nights out to see if they show an interest in him, and im jus anxious all the time. scared that someone will fall for him or vice versa i just cant shake the fearif anyone has anything to say that might help im open to suggestions Reply to this Question
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reader, rubberduck +, writes (21 March 2007):
sometimes these things happen. i myself have been cheated on by the last 3 girls iv been out with. you need to set yourself aside from these "other girls" just because you have your man dosnt mean your in the clear. when your out show other girls that he is yours but at the same time dont keep them away you dont want your man to hink ur guarding him from the world.
be confident and remember sometimes things dont work out.
but think, if he did go off with another girl dont bother yourself about it thats just another man that wasnt right for you. also that one less guy in the system makes it easyer for you to find the one ;)
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reader, sunshine99 +, writes (21 March 2007):
 Hi I sympthasise with you. No wonder you feel this way. The best thing to do just be yourself and take each day as it comes. Don't try to be something your' not, be yourself. If history repeats itself then this guy is not for you. There is someone out there for everyone of us. Enjoy your time together and have fun and please don't worry. This guy previous had no respect for you and only cared about himself. I know it's hard but try not to show jealousy towards him if he speaks or another girl speaks to him, just talk to him about your past and explain how worried you are. Hopefully if he cares, he will reassure you and put your mind at ease. Good Luck
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reader, electra +, writes (21 March 2007):
 Hey there
Firstly you poor thing you, for that to happen to u in your previous relationship is definitely enough to make u paranoid :-( and sweetie i can honestly promise you that that's all this is paranoia, you were hurt quite badly before by the fool who was flattered by someone at work, but think about it you probably deserved better anyway so its understandable that you feel like you do, but now babe you have to try believing in yourself your an amazing person and any guy would be lucky to have you so why would they want to look elsewhere you have to convince yourself of the facts here sweetie, say to yourself i am what i am, i am a beautiful person, no-one can rain on my parade then when you begin to believe in yourself your confidence and self esteem will sky rocket then your man would be crazy to look elsewhere!
i hope my advice has helped you a little at least, let me know how you get on OK would love to hear from you OK :-) keep smiling ! if you ever need a friend or a shoulder to cry on don't hesitate to come find me OK I'm always here for you
Take Care :o)
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reader, agony_uncle_r +, writes (21 March 2007):
i have a very simular past to yours and its a horrid feeling to be rejected. you question your worth and constantly dwell and stufy what happened.
the only reasurance there is, is that everyone is different, just because it happened in the past doesnt mean it will again. infact your insecurities could do more damage. so make the most of it, live every day with him. and show him there is no one better than you
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