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writes:I am recently out of a long term relationship. I started to see this girl for about three months now. I thought I was ready for a relationship when I met her but I feel like a black hole. I have given it three months and she is a great girl but I can’t seem to move on from the last relationship. Should I break it off with this girl and take a break or give it more time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your kindness and answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): Sounds like what you did is jump into another relationship to avoid having to deal with your feelings over the last one, common, but not fair to the reboundee.....once you heal, you will be ready to move on and you will hurt her worse when you wait to do that.
Often rebound relationships like this one are poor choices, she may even be the direct opposite of your ex.
I think you would do best to remain single for some time until you heal from the past realtionship. This means facing head on your feelings of grief and anger and sadness so you don't feel like you are in a black hole.
Let the girl down easy and move on to being a single adult for awhile. Date casually, but no serious relationships of any kind until you are over your ex.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): Ive just been on the other side of this equation and to be honest whilst breaking up sucks (and it does) I would far rather be single than be with someone whose heart elongs to someone else.
Explain it to her. But you need time to get over your ex, then who knows.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): you see being in 2 relationships at the same time is not answer. you left the 1st one to be with the 2nd. now you will leave the 2nd one and be alone. strange how life dishes up our just desserts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): I think you should break it off with her. It's not fair on either of you, you haven't had time to heal and her feelings are probably progressing a lot more than yours. Explain to her why you want to break up, let her get on with her life, and perhaps you two could give it another go in the future.
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