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writes:I beecame good friends with this girl last September as she was new to our school. We became really good friends, but we didn't talk all that much at scool. We still don't. We always (and still do) go round to each other's house and meet up to go to the cinema in small groups and we always talk well. She has told me one or two things that only one of her "girl friends" knows, so I can see that we are close.However, a few months ago I started to develop really strong feelings for her. After a long time debating whether it was a godo idea to tell ehr or not I decided I should. She said that she didn't want to ruin the friendship but I got the feeling she was just not interested in me the same way I was in her at all.It's taken me a long time to try and get over her. We've still remained really good friends. I've been out with a few girls since but those relationships haven't ever really felt right and they've ended quite quickly. I found that even when I was with these other girls I was thinking about the friend.But anyway, my last relationship ended a few days ago and I've now realised that the friend still means so much more to me than just being a friend, despite having tried to get over her for the last 2 months.When we're alone together we seem to relax more and have personal and fun chats, and when we're in small groups we do similarly. But when we're at school, or in big groups, she doesn't seem to take much notice of me. The thing is, I'm really not sure whether I should tell her how I feel again. I can't seem to get the signals right, I mean when we're alone I think she likes me, but in groups it really seems like she doesn't. But if I say something to her again, I think it will ruin the friendship because I think it made her quite upset last time.The thing is I obviously care about the friendship and really, really care about her, but I can't help thinking this is because I like ehr as more than a friend. So do you think I should tell her this or not? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2008): awe wow kinda seems like me I was new at a school in September of 07 and this guy liked me he has big feelings for me I didn't know this tell his sisster told me I was rely good friends with he and she tryed to tell me I didn't Belive it one bit. He started texting me he told me his true feelings for me but I just got dumbed by max and I like wasn't overhim all the way. So I didnt care at the time but now I relize he is very sweet guy.
I would just straight out tell the girl how you feel for her.
And don't rush her into any relationship girls don't like that.
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (12 March 2008):
 Ask her if she is ashamed of you. This seems to be the case. Is she one of the "popular" girls?
Or maybe this is not the case at all. Maybe she just wants more time to get to know you as a friend, before she goes out with you. But Idk, if this were it, seems like she would've said so.
Maybe she is afraid of guys. There could be a number of reasons. I wouldn't advise you to ask her again.
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