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female
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51-59,
*rybaby17
writes:I can't seem to get over this guy I was with for a year. He is half my age, has a girlfriend and a kid that he is still with. The whole time he kept telling me it was over for them but he couldn't leave because she would be a jerk about custody. He finally dumped me,but it is so obvious he still wants me.We work together so I am with him constantly and neither one of us is in a position to get another job. His girlfriend keeps calling me crying about how bad their relationship is.Why should I care,I was the one trying to take him from her? I'm not her friend,and I never have been.I know in my head I should just move on he's not worth it.In my heart though I still love him so much. How can I ever get past this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): Dear Poster
Yes, it is not easy to let go; but if you are determined to do so, you will be able to do it.
FOCUS on other things and stop thinking about him in a romantic way; think about him for who and what he is; the reality of the situation; he is the father of a child; he selected to be with the mother of his child; he dumped you; stop seeing or reading things in his behavior towards you; if he really wanted to be with you he would have been with you; custody would not have stopped him.
He is just somebody at work with a troubled relationship and don't get involved in there problems or try to even discuss it with either of them.
I know it is not easy, but our minds are very strong and when you apply your mind and FOCUS you will succeed.
Divert your attention and start enjoying your life.
Best wishes and lots of SMILES.
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