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writes:It seems like every girl I meet is one of two categories:1. Girls who are religious and want to save sex for marriage.2. Girls who want to have sex right now.I'm in a conundrum because I don't want to have sex until I'm in a serious relationship (maybe to marriage, but pretty close), and I'm really not a big fan of religion. So the girls I've dated have either refused to date me because A) I don't believe in God or B)I won't have sex with them.I was just wondering if there was a way to find other kinds of girls or if I should just give in and have sex. Thanks, Aunts. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2008): I am in a similar boat .... i used to be religious but am not anymore, I am waiting to find someone i love before i have sex. I am not expecting nor wanting marriage, becuase i think a committment between two people super-exceeds a piece of paper. I just want someone i trust and that i am committed too, but try telling that to partners and they look at you like you just said you have 3 heads. They seem to think that if you are in a relationship with them then that automatically means you'll be sleeping toegther ... but i view a realtionship as trying to get to know your partner, seeing whether you have longivity, and not just getting to know each other sexally. I wanna like and love the person, not just lust after them. Plus, i think sex can sometimes stop people from getting to know each other.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (19 September 2008):
Girls have to play it cool so some will say they are waiting for marriage because that takes the pressure off them, when really they will give it to someone special.
Or they will want sex straight away because that is what boys want! (Or so they think.)
Just keep dating and seeing what happens. You'll find someone if you keep looking. The girl for you is probably hiding away because the 2 types of girls you mention are very forward about sex in both cases. It's the quiet nice ones you want.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, calico +, writes (19 September 2008):
 No... DO NOT GIVE IN!!! I'm sorry but just b/c these certain girls you've been w/ in the past are not really what your looking for, dont just let yourself go for the heck of it. I can promise you that if you keep looking and dating different girls, eventually your going to find one that your really going to like and if it fels right to you, and no...NOT JUST B/C YOU ARE HORNY.... but b/c you actually feel a connection w/ this girl....then go for it. But only if it feels right to you. Stick to your guns and dont give in, seriously you'll be glad you did later. Good luck!!!
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reader, teencitizen92 +, writes (19 September 2008):
There are girls that arent like that trust me i know alot of girls that dont want to have sex till they are in a serious relationship. it means you care girls want that. if they dont see that then there dumb.
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