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male
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30-35,
*oey 2008
writes:I posted the following question last week, http://www.dearcupid.org/question/shall-i-go-round-with-some-flowers-and.htmlI really need some more advice please. I made my gf a college (photomontage) of us both together i spent all week making it, i also wrote her a song, which im really pleased with and i wrote her a letter saying im missing you, we need to sort this out please let me know if u wanna be with me or not. She recieved the letter and gifts on monday the 8th in the morning, i had no thank u txt or phone call or nothing which made me feel very low, i then had a vociemail on my fone from a friend saying she is down the pub playing pool with a bunch of guys.. my heart sank, i went down and looked in the window to see if it was her and yes it was she looked and saw me and i went home very upset and hurt, she txt me the next day saying thanks for the present, sorry i didnt text you yesterday, it was a hectic day.... so first thing in my mind is you dont have time to send a txt saying thank u but u can go down the pub with some random guys??, i was really upset as she still hasent phoned/called me to sort out this current situation, my mum spoke with her mum and my gf said ''so now apparently i cant go out wiv mates'' which is not the case, her mum said to me ill tlk to her dont come and see her yet... Now im stuck her mum and dad have gone on holiday to spain for 2 weeks 2day, my gf is home alone for 2 weeks and cud get up 2 nefin. Do u go round and talk to her, or do i wait for her to contact me? or what as i cant go on any longer like this i have put my life on hold for her and wanna carry on, i am soo depressed at the monent and am struggling on, i dotn deserve any of this, and yet i dont have any hate or anger towards my gf, is this because i still love her? or wat? Please help and sorry for the long question...:( X
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reader, lexilou +, writes (15 September 2008):
 I agree you have done so much for her and she has not treated you with the respect you deserve. It may be time to let go. You WILL find someone who appreciates the romantic side of you and wants to be with you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2008): why were you speaking to her mom about this? if my ex did that i would want to see him less...the ball is on her court now...i would leave it alone
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reader, calico  +, writes (15 September 2008):
 You sound like a really nice and caring guy.... something that most of us girls would die to have. It sounds to me like she doesnt really feel the same way about you as you do her. Because... if she did, she would be more concerned w/ how you are feeling rather than going to a pub to play pool. I know you care alot about her... but, I know for a fact that you just need to straight up go over to her and very firmly tell her exactly how you feel... and no holding back. You should not have to wait for her parents etc.... This is your life and yours and hers relationship. You should not have to suffer like this while everyone else is just doing there own thing and not even caring about what its doing to you. I would tell her yourself and move on, b/c I garuntee that she is not worth your time. Some other girl would respect you alot more than this, and make you alot happier. Good luck, I wish the best for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2008): Shes a biatch :-o you do all that and thats the thanks you get. Thats so sweet of you everything you did was soo romantic. How can she not see it that way? U are a sweet caring ROMANTIC type of guy. You will find your real woman but it takes time
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2008): Joey,
So sorry you are hurting. With your girlfriend's response, which really has been nothing, one can't help but to assume she no long holds the same feelings for you. You have done everything you possibly can and she knows how you feel, but yet she still gives you nothing in return. My advice would be to take the time you are taking in putting together collages and songs and put that efforts towards you. Do something that will help you get your mind off of her, go out with friends, read books, write songs about other things in life, etc. One of the hardest things in life is letting go of something we truly care about, but if that feeling is not returned and we still hold on, we are missing out on the REAL DEAL and that is when someone will love you just as much back!
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