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writes:I caught my ex sexualy cheating for the second time. This was 9 months ago. Since the split she had constantly tried to get me back. She blamed me both times saying i had neglected her needs, in which she couldnt explain why. Since she accepted i was never going back it has turned to hate. She wanted any gift she had bought returned. Now things keep happening. Damage to my property, silent phone calls, sexual remarks made about me via my 14 year old son (anonymous texts). All being done without proof. She has dated and been dumped since we split, yet this is carrying on. I'm now at the stage where i want to stoop to her level. She is 39, not a teenager. What does one do?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 January 2012):
 Call the police ask them what you ought to do about those calls.
I would suggest you get your son a new phone #/SIM card.
I agree with the other Aunties, keep a record of things and again when you talk to the police ask then how to go about a restraining order/ no contact order.
Also, CUT all communication with her. If she demands stuff and you don't care about those things, have a 3rd party pas them on to her, do NOT contact her or see her, no matter how much she baits you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2012): Why does she have your sons mobile number? Change your number, and his mobile number. Keep a record of it in a diary.
You have no proof it is her, so you have to be careful before accusing her... (though yeah, I agree, it does sound like it may be her...though have you ever heard the saying revenge is a dish best served cold? It could be someone previous to her even?
If you stoop to 'her level' you will be seen 10 times worse than her, 'cause your a man and she's a women! I know that's wrong, but it's true.
Contact the police too, and maybe put cctv up at your home?
I was in a similar situation once, where someone two timed me, (I did NOT know at the time) then things kept happening to my car! So I know how frustrated you must feel.
It's very childish, personally I would rather have a verbal row with someone and get things off my chest than attack their property! I guess I wasn't dragged up! (I confronted my psycho, who of course denied it!) I wish I hadn't given them that much satisfaction now! But never mind.
Oh and if you have anything of her's, post it (and do it recorded delivery, then she has no 'real' excuse to contact you)
Good luck x
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reader, person12345 +, writes (14 January 2012):
 Keep a detailed notebook record of the time of each instance. Print or record anything that you can. Once you have a pretty solid amount of proof bring it to the police to see about getting a restraining order.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 January 2012):
 Keep record off all these things that are happening, take note of them, keep all the messages, if it keeps happening then go to the police and tell them about the harassment, just because the messages are sent anonymous does not mean that the police can not find out who is sending them. So keep all records. Do not stoop to her level as you will just be as bad and childish as she is. Do the right thing and get the law involved, even if you have no proof they can still look in to it. Good luck.
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