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writes:Hi, i dont know if this is normal or not. But I have been sexually active for about 5 years and i have a boyfriend and we engage in sexual activity often. I have never been able to cum. And i mean Never. Even if hes doing all he can to satisfy me he cant. It feels good and everything but i just cant cum. However I have discharge on my underwear almost everyday. I asked my doctor about it and she said it was fine. I dont know what i can do or try to resolve this issue. It is becoming a problem for our relationship. Thanx
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reader, Miss Potter  +, writes (22 October 2008):
 I agree with the previous poster, you need to get to know your body better first. Try shower or buy a vibrator, stimulating clitoris should definitely do the job. I am not sure if you watch porn or not, or your imagination is good enough. Do it when you are on your own, imagine some sexy scene and work with the toy, just try to listen to your body and I am sure you will get there.
Best of luck
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reader, Quanita  +, writes (22 October 2008):
I am 25 now, i have been sexually active since the age of 17, ive been with about 5 partners and only started reaching orgasm with my current partner.
i don't know if its about learning about yourself or if it's about experience.... or both. But honestly before i met my current partner i never thought that i would ever reach orgasm, in fact i never knew why people made such a big deal out of sex because to me it was just a chore.
anyway to get to the point i think the reason why i started reaching orgasm is because i stopped caring about if my fat is stickingf out or is my breasts are sagging too much... i just decided to enjoy the sex, play out my fantasies, i stopped caring about what i looked like...
i think it helps to bring out the "freak" in you... your partner will enjoy it... you will enjoy... just let go...
dress up in kinky clothes.. go all out... but be yourself...
if it doesnt suit you to be freaky freaky find something else...
also i think you should really explore yourself...
get a vibrator or just use your hands... don't feel guilty... just figure out what turns you on and enjoy it...
teach your partner how to touch you...
its sometimes difficult to come just from penetration so i find that if your partner is doing you from the back (doggy style) it is easier for you (or him) to play with your clitoris which will help you reach orgasm.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): The best tip I can give you is to learn how to come when you are by youself and under no pressure. If you can find a way to get really turned on and rub your clitoris with steady continuous rhythm, see what happens. If it works, do it regularly and then teach your boyfriend how he needs to do it, ie. what works for you, either slow rhythm, fast rhythm (we are all diffirent). Good luck
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