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writes:I never opened up easily, not to anyone, as much as i've wanted to, i just can't and i really don't know why, it's so frustrating when i'm going through a rough patch and nobody knows, because other people tend to get mad at me for acting the way i do. i just feel so alone, how i can't talk to any of my family members about anything, not even slight problems i'm having and i don't really tend to talk to friends as much as were all drifting apart and everybody's always having their own problems. i feel i have no-one and that my lifes becoming pointless even though i don't want it to be. i've never been close with a boy and i'm getting to a point when everything is stressing me out. i've never been really happy and used to self harm for years as i felt it was my only way of letting any stress or anger out.my mum found out about it one day and said she'd try and help me through it, but to this day she's never once mentioned it again. i'm always involved or caught in between situations which i really don't want to be involved in. i always tend to be down and can barely ever get to sleep on a night. i'm sick of feeling so small and pointless all of the time.if anyone has any advice on anything i could do to help myself in anyway, please tell me.thankyou x Reply to this Question
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reader, xxanniexx +, writes (17 February 2009):
i feel the same way as you.i really want to open up to people but i dont no how or what there reactions will be.i am only 14 and its got to the point were i have been that stressed out i have got alapesia and i self harm i really dont like doing the stuff i do but i cant help it.
me and my mum cant stay in the same room for more that 10 mins or we start arguing i really hate it, my sister is 21 and she has just moved back into my house and she is causing so much problems with me.
i also hate when i try and help i always get shoved out the way and then they say im lazy for not helping.
it is actully coming to the point were im thinking about suicide but i really cant go through the pain.
please let me know how i can help myself before it gets worse xx
xx leanne xx
my email address is [email address blocked]
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): I can relate to that a bit, I don't tend to tell people about like the proper things that really bother, in case they say something bad or don't react in the way i want them too etc. I've only recently started talking to my mum about stuff that bothers me and i'm glad i did cos i feel so much better.It is quite normal to feel this way in your teens, cos it's often just hormones rearranging themselves and what not. Try and involve yourself in as many activities as possible, join in the conversations with your friends loads and maybe join clubs and things and you'll soon realise that it's not all pointless! Also something else that's quite helpful: If you make yourself a goal for each week/month and stick to it and make it something fun so u can look forward to fulfilling it! If you ever want to chat feel free to send me a private message, i'll be happy to answer :-) xx Hope xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): There is nothing wrong with you. A lot of Adults ask partners to open up because of their own insecurities. You are still a child and your instincts are to open up carefully only when you know it is safe. This behaviour is natural because it safeguards you against unfair critisism and being taken for a fool.As your mum as said shed help you through it. If you feel the need to open up talk to her. You said she never mentioned it again, maybe she thinks your ok. Don't open up to anyone it as to be someone you trust. and never judge your self worth on having a boy friend.Good luck
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reader, Skeez +, writes (17 March 2008):
 Hello darling.You remind me of myself when I was younger. I certainly wasnt one of the adventurous people in the crowd and I never really talked to people becuase I was really really shy. I went through my early teens with only a very few friends and it was hard. I wouldnt talk to my parents about how I was feeling or anyone for that fact and did become very lonely. What you need to do hun, is try and leave all of that behind. Imagine yourself in 5 years time. What do you want to do? What job is your dream to achieve?. How I got over being so shy was to just think about my future. I wanted to be a singer, I was also really interested in Art and Fashion. So what I did was put together what I needed to do to get where I wanted. I started to make clothes, got some of my friends who were also interested to help me and get some of my stuff photographed for our school magazine and etc. Show off my talents and I felt really good about myself. After that I wanted to achieve more and get myself out there more and more. Persue yourself in what you desire the most for your future. If you have goals that yu truelly are dedicated to, there will be no stopping you and you will turn from the shy, quiet girl to the confident, and beauiful person you really are. Also, you could join the gym. That really helps me also. I feel sexy and my body looks good, so you will want to go out a show it off. Get with your mates, go out shopping, go tto the cinema and just enjoy life. I theres something that bothers you, let it out as quick as you can, once you do that you can forget about it quicker and enjoy more of your life.
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