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writes:hey guys.. hope u guys can help me out.let me tell u whats the problem.. its something like a love triangle.i moved to this school since 4 years ago. i met this girl. she was a chinese.her name is mary. on the very first day of school i and her became friends. for two years i just considered her as ordinary person in my life. soon in my third year i had to sit near her. i dunno why but all a sudden i felt weird sitting beside her. i felt uncomfortable. soon i realised i liked her. i was still confused whether i loved her or was just a crush or etc. i can tell you one thing i did not go for her sexyness or physical appearance one what so ever. i won't say she is the prettiest in the world but there was someting good about her that i loved. i started caring for her. i was desperate to talk to her everytime she was online on msn. i was like obsessed. but i never thought of her in a wrong manner. i always helped her in her works. i soon felt we were in common is some ways. the believes and actions and surroundings. soon i felt she was also talking to me more often. she was seeking for me more often. so i decided to tell her my heart to her in 2 days time. meanwhile my best friend(tom) and i were talking in the bus back home. tom said,'you know mary our class mate. i was talking to her yesterday night on some maths questions. i soon talkied to her about teenage life and i talked about my past love.. YOU KNOW WAD SHE SAID.. SHE SAID SHE HAS A CRUSH on ME!!' i did not know wad to say. i was just heart broken. i just could not take it i just got down the next bus stop and cried in a corner where there was no one. that night mary was talking to be about Tom to me. she blogs about it.. she asks to tag her blog etc. everytime i feel depressed and hurt, sometimes jealous. THE MAIN PROBLEM is tom do not like her. he likes someone else. i love her more then she would i guess. i feel hurt to see her talking about her crush infront of me. sharing things all. it has been 4 years for now since i know her and 2 years since i kinda love/like her. i have not told her that i like her as i can clearly see that she herself is liking another person. its so impossible at times. now my school is coming to a end. my last fourth year. i think i may never see her. sometimes i feel this is my last love or so. coz i never had a gf before and it seems i m fated not to have one in my life? isssit my race that is a barrier. i m a indian and she is a chinese. i dun think race is a barrier for me coz i dun see the diff. but i just wanna either forget her or make her mind. is there a solution to heal my heart and move on. moving on is hard coz i see her everyday. its just so complicated. i feel i m a candle who burns when mary comes and melt when i see her. i was never desperate for her in a wrong way or wad so ever. so how do i deal with such a problemCAN BLACK AND WHITE get together. is colour a problem in the world. does color affect love. why doesn't she see my heart. why doesn't she even bother. hais. i really need a solution to this problem
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (11 September 2009):
 I like this post, Are Indians considered black and Chinese white?, just wondering.well kid hers your problem you made the classic mistake of wearing your heart on your sleeve, and becoming this girls friend.If you poured your heart out to her shes gonna say are you ready for it. Thats sweet but i like you just as a friend. Its time for damage control buddy,Girls dont want a guy that drools all over them that would jump in front of a bus for them, that would rip out there heart to if they needed it they only want a guy like that in pharmacy novels and chick flix.what you gotta do is one make the girl jealous stay away from her talk about other girls hell get your cousin to pretend to be your gf even if you have to kiss her in front of this girl, STOP being her friend. you gotta make this girl think shes gonna loose you.This girl has confided in you told you her secrets who she crushes things you wouldnt tell a lover because its to much power.YOu need to start being an asshole asap, next time your with tell her say something like wow i never notice but you really have a nice ass almost as nice as this girl who gave me her number yesterday.You could say you have a GF if she says you never told her you have a gf say theres lots of stuff you havnt told her,YOu gotta get some game you mght have a chance be a jerk stop being her best friend dont msn her or talk to her for a few days when you do see her say you been busy say your gf doesn't want you to talk to her, and never tell her you love her untill your maried and then dont say it alot.you need to find out how this girl feels about you you could get some one to ask her if she goes out with you because they have seen you hanging with her and see what she says if she says eww gross then stick to the plan, if she says oh no where just friends things could be difficult.you could always pray if all else fails
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