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writes: Help! I'm happily married, life is going really well except i use to date this controlling guy for 4 years before i meet and married my husband. and now if ever my husband advices me on anything i freak thinking he's trying to control me. i need advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, Renee okc  +, writes (24 July 2009):
you need to get professional help to work through your baggage. You shouldn't make your husband accountable for what someone did to you in the past, that would not be fair to him at all. Just get some help or better yet explain to him what is going on. I am happy you are happy now.
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reader, busy04 +, writes (24 July 2009):
 You need to let that past with the old BF go and embrace your husband even more, and realize that he's only trying to help you...not harm or control you. Advice and control are two totally different things, advice is not "commanding you" to do something, it's letting you know how "you could" do it. Relax, talk to your husband, let him know that you're struggling with this so he can be aware of how to handle it. He may honestly just be trying to help you so let him work through this with you. But don't punish him and shun him away because of what someone else has done.
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