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writes:hey, broke up with my boyfriend about 8 months ago, and I have constantly texted him I dont know why. Think I still want to feel close to him as he has moved away. I have wished him best for the future and have not tried to get him back, just wanted us to be friends and be able to meet up for a laugh. I now realise I have pushed him further and further away, but I still love him and miss him so much. Our relationship went abit downhill near the end and I told him a few things about myself, and now Im scared that he just feels sorry for me. I havent contacted him in a few weeks as I think its time to leave him alone and let him go. Thats what they say isnt it, if you love someone you have to let them go. I just wish we could have a second chance together. I think he still cares as he met up with me a few times after we broke up and has phoned. Should I just leave him be? or try and get back to being friends?.
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reader, Cateyes  +, writes (4 June 2008):
 I think it's true what they say...If you love something set it free, and if it comes back to you it's yours. BELIEVE me, I know it's hard and I know it hurts when they may not call, however, it's better to know the truth then have someone around when in truth, they don't feel the same way.
Keep your chin up...there loss!
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reader, woman23 +, writes (4 June 2008):
 I believe that you need to tell him in his face that you still love him and if he is a good guy he will sit and listen, than after his response you will know what comes next, but you cant just expect things to happen without any action being done, so i say you set a date and you tell him, if he doesnt feel the same way well atleast you'll feel good with yourself that you didnt leave with a wonder if things might have had worked out, and it is nothing to be embarassed of if you are of telling him.
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reader, LauzzC +, writes (4 June 2008):
Heya i was in a same position to you i loved him so much and it went downhill we still talked every night on msn and we both still loved each other but he said that he just couldnt be with me because of all the arguments, i found it hard to let go and i tried getting him back and even got my friends to talk to him, now i realise it was for the best that we didnt go back out. Try not talking to him for a while and im sure you will find someone better. Stay friends instead of pushing him so far he doesnt talk to you at all :)
Hope this helped
Laura x x x x
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reader, Queeny  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 its very difficult to let go i know..everyone who is not in the situation advices it quite easily. but there is a good sign there for you, that you want to let go. the reason he is drifting away further and further is becoz you send him endless messages. it suggests desperation(pls don get me wrong). this really puts him off. if there are things you told him about yourself & left becoz of that, it is not ur fault, he jus didn't knw hw to handle it. he was not strong enough to handle it. if you love him gal, you will let him go so that he can also be happy as you say you wish him.becoz even if he comes bak to you for ur sake, he will not be happy & you will not enjoy the relationship either. just decide once and for all and promise yourself that you shall not send anymore text messages. it will be most hurtful when he does not reciprocate your efforts. don't live another 1month in this state... if you have someone to talk about it with you could try that. even a councellor can help you when you go a couple of sessions with him/her. becoz even if you so badly want to let go and you are still in denial, its hard to get to the acceptance stage then the withdrawal stage. a councellor will help you go through this stages and it takes time.. someone can be in denial for months while others will get over denial very fast and move to acceptance..
ok just try... i hear this from experienced councellors and you'll probably need a proffessional help..someone who'll talk to you face to face and spend alot of time with you.. but please, at least try and stop denying that the relationship is over...becoz you had a reason to end it. think about the reason more often... it had to be a good one coz i see you still loved him but broke it off...
take care of yourself..
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (3 June 2008):
 Sometimes trying to be friends with the ex is a hard thing to do. If you can pull it off without either of you feeling uncomfortable ...or feeling like you're holding the other one back, try. But, if you think that having a friendship isn't an impediment to either one of you, then sure... approach it gingerly.
Good luck!!
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