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writes:So, I really need your help. This guy and I both liked each other. We hungout and he took me home from school for about 3-4 weeks. We loved each other but werent "in love". A week ago he stopped texting me as much as he used to so I texted him saying sorry if I did something to upset him. He texted back that night saying he was thinking for a while and hes not ready to be in a relationship and more. I cried for 3 hours... Everyone thinks im fine but im not. Ive been trying to get over it and I cant. When I text him trying to talk to him about what happened, he'll stop texting me. I dont no if its because it upsets him or not. But honestly, we've known each other for 4 years and ive liked him that long and i finally get a chance with him and lose him and i cant imagine my life without him and i want to die. Im so lost and confused and hurt. please help me... ):
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reader, Demy +, writes (8 November 2010):
i had to deal with the same thing, you can either give him space, or just stay friends for now, if you really love him, then stay his friend until he is ready, don't bring up the topic of you two being together, being a supportive friend is what he needs. im not saying pretend and act, but be a true friend, and when the time comes, it will be worth the wait, you won't regret it, he'll either come around or not, but why lose this friendship as well? in the end, there's a chance that he'll be ready to be with you, im the happiest i could ever be, and i'm sure you'll be the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010): I'm going through the same thing as you! And I'm in your age group too lol. But yeah I know it hurts so much when the guy you have so many feelings for, one day decides he's not talking to you anymore. I spent a whole week crying for this guy who I love but he stopped talking to me as well. I was devastated because I was so use to texting him every single day you know? I literally felt like crying all day long. I even lost my appetite from how upset I was. I know it's really hard but you should move on for now like he said he doesn't want to be in a relationship. Give him his space and time you never know he might change his mind. And if he doesn't then it's really his loss! There are so many more guys out there, I promise the heartache will soon heal. Believe me I thought it was going to be impossible but my heartache is healing, and I've realized how it's his loss if he doesn't want me because I'm sure he'll have a hard time finding a girl who cares/loves him as much as I do.Btw if he keeps being an asshole when you text him just don't text him back, let him chase you. And if he doesn't then he's a retard.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (8 November 2010):
 Do not be so quick to lose hope. I know it hurts, your heart aches and sometimes crying is a necessity but do not lose hope. It may feel as though this should be the end because you just cannot go on but do not lose faith. Do not seek death.
He simply needs time to think. Do you often see him? If you do, maybe you can ask him to talk to you in privacy so you can tell him how you feel. You only want to know what the problem is. Do not threaten to commit suicide, do not think about suicide. Life without him is still life and life always has a way of pointing beautiful light at the harshest of shadows. This is but a moment in time, you just need to get through it, never surrender.
Try and talk to him face to face and tell him that you just want to know. You are hurt and the best thing to do right now is let somebody know so they can help you, just so you will not go through this alone and scared.
I hope that helps.
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