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writes: I'm starting to have a real problem.. I've been with my boyfriend 15 months and we've had our bad times like any couple, but always quickly pulled through and we're still going strong.But when he goes out with girls.. I worry and it ruins my whole day when he's with them. I honestly do trust him, I do, but I just get jealous... He's stopped going out with them quite a bit because he knows I don't like it, and he's offered to stop fully, but I don't want to control him like I feel I sometimes do. I know he only goes out with them because he fancies a bit of a laugh.Is there anything I can do to stop being so jealous?
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (1 March 2008):
 well at least he is not going out with them alone. they fancy him? well i presume you trust him enough to know that he is not going to do anything, but let him know that this makes you feel uncomfortable, and that his friends shouldn't treat you like this just because he chose you. he should understand this and let his friends know that they have to start treating you well. they are just jealous because they wanted him and he chose you- not them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your help. Usually its him, another guy and about 3 girls. But to be honest, they all fancy him so hate me because I'm his girlfriend. This makes me even more uncomfortable.
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reader, O Connor +, writes (1 March 2008):
does he go out with these girls alone ie just him and her?? if he does then this is not acceptable, and i would understand why this would upset you. why dont you go out with him and these girls? you probably would get along well with them and end up having fun, which would make you feel more comfortable with him being friends with other girls. i dont think laura is right wen she says do everything together - that is just way too much, couples need their time alone. your boyf sounds like he is really understanding and respects your feelings - so respect his and suggest that instead of him stopping this altogether, you would like to meet his friends - maybe you could have them all over for drinks or something? good luck hun, i hope this helps, email me if you want xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008): Why does he go out with them, why not with you? Can you not go along with them? I wouldnt stay at home if my blokes was out with a load of girls, no way.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (1 March 2008):
 You should go out together and have fun. Why should he have fun while you sulked at home? That ain't fair.
Do everything together and it will bind you more tighter.
Do not know what he is doing and it will free your mind.
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