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writes: Hi I wrote in a few days ago, but my problem has somehow changed, last night I had some severe pains in my chest and heart, I'm 23yrs, how pathetic is that. My folks tell me to calm down, not to take things so seriously.I stress about work, i work with my dad, but im the one that does EVERYTHING. I hate it so so sos sososososososoososo much. Nobody can begin to know, and the sad and scary part is that i thought that I WAS having a heart attack at midnight.Now that i'm in the clear, its like it never even happened, back at work, getting complaints from my dad, about everything that i must do and fix.i can't take it any longer... talking to them is like talking to a concrete wall.i want out, its effecting my health.what should i do.please help.
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reader, mystify +, writes (24 March 2006):
 i agree , get to your docter to find out if there was anything behind your chest pains.
but then if your work is stressing you out that much ... quit!
i once or twice was stuck in jobs that strssed me out and i didnt enjoy , they just seemed to go on and i couldnt see a way out , and i KNOW! how much that can bring you down in life AND in health (i dont know how many times i got asked if i was "on drugs or sommin" when i worked one particulaly stressful place in the end i got fired cos my boss fancied the part timer who wanted more work , but my god was it a blessing in disguise i went to college , got my youth back and educated myself, and met people, admitadly i had to work a few pubs to earn my keep but so do most students.
at least you see a way out when you have this.
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (23 March 2006):
 I think that you need to first of all, have a chat with your GP to have a chat about the anxiety and the pains in your chest. That is not a good thing to hear and I think its important to get some medical advice.
This problem will not be solved unless you talk to your parents. Unfortunately there is no easy way out, you have to talk to your parents.
Perhaps your parents are worried that without their employment offer that they don't know what you would do etc.
Perhaps you need to go to them with a plan of action - what are you going to do, what do you want to do....do you want to study? start your own business? travel? working holiday?
Stop focussing on how much you hate it and start focussing on what you would love to do and then start doing some research and thinking about how might this be achieved.
Use the fact you don't like the work you are doing as motivation to help you move on and find something you want to do with your life.
I would draw up a plan (times, finanaces etc) and then go to your parents and say that you love them and you appreciate all that they have done for you but you want to go on a different path and this is it.... Show them your plan and show them that you seriously want to do something else, not just complain about your current work.
I think that once you have formulated a plan and start saving money or whatever you need, you will be much happier because you can see what it is you want to do rather than work with your father.
Good luck
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