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writes:ive been married for 20 years. i love my wife completely. but i feel so cheated on. 3 years ago she got a best friend thats male. they work togher. every friday they spend time togher they talk every day sometimes for hours. he is married. i cant handle all the time she spends with him . so we fight. she says she loves me and wants to be with me. more that i have problems, with her haven ffriends, she says. thats not true.how do i know if she loves me? if we should stay togher? how can i not hurt so bad every day? pleaase hel me
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009): Does she seem to give more attention to him than you? Have you tried telling your wife, *calmly*, that you're feeling left out and disconnected from her, that you need more of her time with you. You'll do the work, you'll plan outings and such to make your couples time fun, but she needs to commit the time to the two of you. If she agrees, and seems contrite about your feelings, then this should be a good thing.She's certainly got the right to have friends, just as you do; if you had a good, trustworthy woman friend, you'd resent your wife not trusting you. Have you had trust issues in past relationships, have you been cheated on and this is a really sensitive subject for you? If so, *does your wife know this*? She can't help you, give you the right kind of reassurances and maybe change some of her behavior if she doesn't know what's going on.If you haven't had these kinds of issues before, and if you have 'that gut feeling' that this friendship of your wife's is more than just a friendship, perhaps an emotional affair of sorts, a private investigator would be a good investment. Just Be CERTAIN you're prepared to deal with whatever you may learn - don't ask a question if you really aren't prepared to calmly deal with the answer.
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