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writes:[OP original title]Ok, so im a teenager. I do drugs (only marijuana), I drink, and smoke ciggerettes. I want to quit so badly but I can't, my biggest crush ever does the same. but when i'm with him everything changes, it's like i can quit everything around him. he makes me feel so good and we've known eachother since we were little kids like even when i was born he knew me. He's 2 years older than me which is not bad at all but his birthday is coming up in October i think so for awhile anyways. Now i'v had a crush on him all my life but i don't think he knows that, he might because we talk once in awhile because he was in highschool and i was still in grade 8 but in septmeber i'll be in grade 9 finally. It would be so much easier to tell him my feelings after all these years. It's just i don't know how because every time im around him its like my heart beats faster and faster and i get sweaty hands, and im nervous, i get butterflies, and i blush and get really red in the face. I get this feeling i my stomach, like an ache. I need ways to tell him my feelings other than face to face because i'd most likely freeze up again. But after all this is over and he knows i have this huge crush on him, i should be fine and be comfortable again around him that would be awesome! I need peoples help and give me different ways to tell him? One more thing..He doesn't have hotmail (msn), facebook, myspace, or cellphone anymore, or any other networking, which makes everything even harder for me. I have alot of other guys that like me and stuff but he's the only one i can see myself with and wanna be with. He's like my life, the only one i can see myself with. I know he can make me into a better person by me just being with him. I can feel it.He's the only one that keeps me hoping! He always has.I just need different ways to tell him, like all possible ways you can think of please. Im begging you. I can't wait any longer, i'm dieing inside it feels like.God bless you all, and thank you so much for anyone who answers me. You will all find your love or already have it. Unfortunatly mines a little hard to get, unless i just have bad luck. Im hoping all this will come to something good hopefully :) Thank you.
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reader, xo.diamond.ox +, writes (6 July 2010):
xo.diamond.ox is verified as being by the original poster of the question I am slowly quiting everything. I havn't drank anything alcohol in about 2/3 months. And im quiting smoking to, but where i come from all of my friends are into everything and thats why i was influenced buy these new mistakes i made.
My special guy here im talking about is supper smart and really nice even though he does smoke occasionally and drink once in awhile. Hes charming and has gorgeous brown eyes that can make u fall inlove right away. I currently have a boyfriend but i don't love him. All hes into is sex, sex, sex..and more sex, but i have not done anything so im thinking it's best for me to breakup with him if that's all he wants, and try my best to tell my crush how i really feel no matter how much courage it takes out of me. It's been really hard on me with all this pressure going on in my life, when im with him i feel different like i can quit everything right there on the spot with him.
I know i am the only one that can stop these bad habbits and im working really hard on it and so far it's a success. (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2010): Hey, I'm about his age and yeah almost everyone in high school does te same things he does. But that doesn't mean you have to do those things bc he does. Guys would respect you more for doing your own thing, instead of following the crowd.
You should tell him how you feel but be prepared for him not to feel the same way. If it doesn't work out just find someone in your grade, don't worry you'll meet many cute guys.
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reader, Wise Woman of the Forest  +, writes (6 July 2010):
 Quitting drugs, alcohol and smoking can be simple if you take it slowly and do it one at a time. You can cut it down so eventually you don't need it and there are many advice lines you can call for support. You'll find yourself feeling a lot fresher and less paranoid for one. :L
However, if he has an "addiction" to weed, it's like a second commitment and I've seen a lot of relationships fail due to it. I think that although you don't want to do it face to face, it would be better to take him aside and tell him rather than sending him a note or something, because he wouldn't be able to make fun of you in any manner if it doesn't go the way you want it to. If you would like to tell him subtly, hint, though most men don't understand hints, unsubtle or not. The best way would be to come right out and tell him. (:
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reader, england_rock_chic +, writes (5 July 2010):
ok smoking weed at your ages is bad but its happending everywhere now really. but try to quit drugs and fags and only drink now and again. once you've quit/cut down on these it'll show you are willing to commit into a relationship.
admit your true feelings to him and see what he says. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2010): First off, I don't know how good it is to put all your faith into this one person. Especially if he's into the same stuff you are. (how did you get mixed up into all this anyway?)
Just remember he isn't the one who can change you, you are.
As for telling him, if you don't want to face-to-face, why not write a note? Best of luck to you!
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