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writes:I really don't know what to do. I have been married to my wife for 39 years. I worship the ground that she walks on but several years ago she had a one year love affair with a married man. I've been no angel , have had a few one night stands but no love affairs. I can't get the thought of them being together and having sex out of my mind. She refuses to talk about it and tells me to get over it. How can I erase these thoughts from my mind. I never see him but I hate his guts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): It is easier to hate him than her but she is the one to blame.
It does seem a long time ago and if you haven't moved on maybe you need counselling.
She must have stayed 39 years with you for some reason. Does she tell you she loves you?
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (1 January 2008):
 I can't imagine that her telling you any MORE than you already know is going to help you erase the images from your mind. It sounds like you BOTH could use some help here. I think your situation would be ideal for counseling. It's worth a shot. The affair and the one-night stands probably came from something that you both have found lacking inside the marriage. It sounds like you do adore your wife, and I suspect she might not have strayed if your marriage had met her needs emotionally. Hope that you might consider doing this and sorting it all out together. I wish you both the best.
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