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writes: I have been 6 months. 6 months ago, I broke up with my first love. We were together for almost a year, and have liked each other for longer. He used to leave me notes everywhere saying "I love you" or "I miss you babe". We were always gunna be each other's 1st. But this all ended when I heard a rumor that he was cheating on me. I immediately dumped him and cried for hours. I checked my phone that afternoon and had 85 missed calls from him. They all said the same thing. We didn't do anything. I miss you and love you. Your my world. I want you back. Your my everything, ect. I thought it over and stupidly believed him. I mean, I loved him. And that girl he didnt cheat with was just another jealous slut that liked him.Anyways, when I got back from Maine that Summmer, I found out it was true. He cheated on me with that slutbag. I couldn't even look at him. I had my bestfriend dump him because I couldnt. I didnt want to lose what we had. So after we broke up, we talked and decided it was best to be friends. But I started to like him and he's changed. I love him. He was my first love and I can never forget him. But I dont think he likes me. And my best friend is deeply in love with him. Not to mention my trust issues now. I just can't shake this feeling of wanting him. He pulls me towards him. What should I do?
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reader, JusttHer +, writes (27 March 2010):
JusttHer is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo I have this date tonight with a new guy, but I still cant shake off this feeling of me doing something wrong...
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reader, JusttHer +, writes (21 March 2010):
JusttHer is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice..
I'll keep somee distance, and try to just focus on friends, school and cheerleading.
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reader, arielthh  +, writes (21 March 2010):
 Come on, you are still very young, don't be so sure!He cheated on you once. What makes you think he would not redo it? You will get over him, just in time. Try to find something to do, keep yourself busy and start seeing someone else.
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reader, Luckie128 +, writes (20 March 2010):
I don't think you'll ever really get over him. This may sound a bit silly but the way I sortof got over my first bf was to start a relationship with someone else. Someone, guy or girl, to start talking to on the phone or hanging out with to avoid thinking of him. I did everything possible and it worked.
I directed my feelings into something positive with the boyfriend I had after him. He helped me alot and made me see that the world goes on and there are guys out there that WONT cheat on you!!
You have to see that you can and will do better. You deserve more. In any case, change your number
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reader, Missprettynpurple  +, writes (20 March 2010):
i always think the most important thing in a break up is distance.the distance is used to recover and sort out your feelings but u didnt rli hav that or enough of it mayb.personaly i wld not get bk wit him even if he did want 2 get bk together he wld b increasin ure bad trust issues.i also wldnt date any other guy he wld just b a rebound and an addition 2 the love triangle.u need a hobbie, some alone time, an u ned 2 hang out wit some1 who isnt ure best friend.ure best friend well just remind of the mess u three r in before u have fully recovered.after the distance part u can then get wit some1 who wldnt cheat, some1 who u can work on ure trust issue wit!
Hope u get better
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