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writes:I have been single for 4 months, I broke up with my boyfriend after 2 and a half years together. About a month ago I started seeing someone else, we aren't together and i have no intention of getting with him because I still love my ex. I do like the guy I'm seeing, he's a really nice guy but I cant get over my ex so its not fair me continuing to see him.when i was with my ex I found out I was pregnant, but I lost the baby, I never really got over that and it put great strain on our relationship. My ex used to be quite immature and he never wanted to do anything with me and he was always quite moody as his job is quite stressful. In the last few weeks we have started to become close again and he has told me that he has changed and that he knew how unhappy I was before, he said he wants to make me happy and I believe him, we were best friends for years before we got together so I know he's telling the truth.I feel so confused, I love my ex and I want to give it another chance, I know i should start with a clean slate and tell him about other guy, but I just dont know what to say to him. Can anyone give me any tips on how to go about it? thanks =)
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reader, English chick!  +, writes (9 July 2008):
 Kind of the same with me, except one part.
Me and my friend got in a fight because she didn't like my new b/f, so i ditch her.
But then we became friends agian she told me to ditch him or she'll tell the whole school my worst secret, so i did dump him but now i feel completely empty, i need HELP!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): Wow...I feel like I am reading my life story. I totally agree with Emilysanswers. Lay the ground rules and try to work it out! I tried this with my EX and he is just too immature to communicate. That was the reason we broke up to begin with! Talk things out and lay EVERYTHING out on the table...good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWill try the setting of ground rules between us to see if that works =) thank-you 'emilysanswers' xx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (23 June 2008):
Well if you love your Ex and want to give it another go then you could always do that. But make sure you have a set of ground rules first so you know to get out if it's not going to work.
Figure out between you why it failed last time: eg, he was immature, he took his work problems out on you, he would never do anything with you, and tell him to list what his problems were with you.
Then work out what you can do to make sure these things don't happen again.
However if your gut feeling is that history will repeat itself then run away now before you get hurt more.
Keep going as you are and keep seeing other guys even if it is only on a casual basis.
You will get where you want to be eventually.
Good Luck!! xx
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