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writes: Ok I had dated this guy 13 years ago. We had a son who is now 12. We never had a relationship like being a family or anything. He married another women and pays child support and still sees his son. I slept with him after him and his wife split but haven't in years. He's with someone new now but he says he's not happy at all and is always asking me to have sex with him. Our only contact is because of my son, but he calls just to talk sometimes. He always brings up sex, like what he wants me to do to him etc..I'm the type of person who will just laugh it off and I don't know what to say to him. I don't want to sleep with him cause he does have a girlfriend, and the last time we did he made me feel like a cheap whore. But I don't know how to stop him from making comments about sex and that always being the subject I do have contact with him but my thoughts are it should only be about my son, not sex. How do I get him to leave me alone? I want it to be in a nice way cause I still have to deal with him until our son is 18.
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reader, tayluv +, writes (8 January 2006):
Just let him know in a no nonsense way that your relationship with him is strictly for your child. It seems to me he can have sex with you but wants a "relationship" with the other women. So this should let you know that he only sees you as a sex item. He pays child support which is almost an miraculous feat these days so he is financially taking care of his child. You can still have talks with him on the phone but when he brings up sex quickly excuse yourself and end the conversation. If you do this enough times he will see that you are serious and hopefully will give up. Good luck!!
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reader, StarNews +, writes (7 January 2006):
 I wouldn't allow this slime ball to get away with these comments. He is seeing how far he can push you into having sex with him. Tell him that he needs to stop this type of behavior and that you only want to discuss matters concerning your son. Be polite but firm. Keep thinking about how he made you feel the last time you had sex with him, that should be incentive enough.
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